I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Makes senseFirst of all you dont tell them that you have no intention to get married, thats basically telling them that they're wrong.
It sounds more feminine for guys to be judging you over your marriage status.Makes sense
But still is hard to get along with them and in my work politics has huge impact.. If you dont get in a group you weak and people will try to knock you
With game, chat up. Everyone. Girls you pull. Dudes are friends. Assume he's your boy already. With work, keep barriers of separation. Don't be fronting but definitely keep Lifestyle separate.I work in a place where most men are married and those who are not desperately looking for it.. feels really frustrating have no good friends. I'm 29yrs old
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I tell them straight in the face that you made a mistake. Marriage is a lifetime liability that you bought.First of all you dont tell them that you have no intention to get married, thats basically telling them that they're wrong.
They accept their "fate" as if there is not a better way. I don't think marriage is bad necessarily but our culture lends to men getting bossed than cvcked. Most just lay down like a beaten dog.I don't say anything about that cause everyone in my department is 50+ or pretty close to it. They don't seem sad about it and I would guess they probably would feel pretty empty inside as they are run of the mill square types which isn't a bad thing.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
There are others..Long time member here...I like to think you can learn from everyone, even people you disagree with on certain things. I've always tried to learn things from every generation, older and younger than me.
I'm 50 and about 3 years into my second marriage. I'm happy, no regrets.
You will find as you get older, life gets tougher. Having a great woman that has your back is a good thing.
Don't underestimate the power of a good marriage. Myself, I recently injured my ankle, required surgery, and can't walk for about 6 weeks. Having a woman that loves you and waits on you hand and foot, always taking care of you is something you can only get in a marriage.
Problem is these days, the quality of women is horrible. Statistically, the odds are not in your favor.
But if you can find that rare woman that will give you everything, does not believe in feminism, and will always be loyal, marriage is totally worth it.
If you never meet the right person, than don't get married. But if you meet that rare special person and she wants you, then go after her. You won't get a second chance.
"Full service"? Is that bomb level sex?+1 @bmp2cpm
In the last 6 months I've been between gigs got one now. nearly lost my father to a second cancer operation and and had to drop everything to get back to NZ. and now I discover that no good work goes unpunished and I've got a mild sports hernia. Welcome to your 50s boys.
And through all of that my Asian girlfriend has stayed by my side. And kept up full service.
Keep plating and screening and you can find a keeper if that's what you want.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not many. Less than you can count on a single hand, I would say.There are others..
Increase your range. Some good candidates would have been in a long relationship and during that relationship enjoys sexxing, loving and taking care of her man. He cheated on her at the end and divorce. She had 20+ yrs of good behavior. Get her b4 the single market. The ones that geen on the single market greater than 5 yrs are terrible for LTR.Not many. Less than you can count on a single hand, I would say.
Yep and a wake up BJ in the mornings. More importantly she cooks well.
So you think 97% of women are out there for what they can scam or strip out of a man?Not many. Less than you can count on a single hand, I would say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.