"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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"Can I use your restroom?"
 
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It's easier if they invite you to their house for the date.
 
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...I show up for the date, the rest is history.
 
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well im talking about after the date.....
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by AA423
well im talking about after the date.....
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so am I my friend, so am I:up:
 
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so am I my friend, so am I:up:
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So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh? No wonder you are looking for ways to trick her into inviting you in...
 
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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh? No wonder you are looking for ways to trick her into inviting you in...
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No what I'm saying is all it takes for me to get invited into my dates home for after hours entertainment is showing up for what ever dinner/drinking/movie date we scheduled in the first place...sorry I didn't make that clearer.
 
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Originally posted by PRMoon
No what I'm saying is all it takes for me to get invited into my dates home for after hours entertainment is showing up for what ever dinner/drinking/movie date we scheduled in the first place...sorry I didn't make that clearer.
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So wouldn't be easier to have the date in her house in the first place???!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh?
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No, because her parents are usually home.
 
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No, because her parents are usually home.
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So why do you need the invite in? Whaddaya want to do, "Meet the Parents?"

What kind of Focker are you????

:crackup: :p :crackup:
 
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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So wouldn't be easier to have the date in her house in the first place???!!!
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There are plenty clubs and bars next to the thousands of hotel rooms here for that.:D And it doesn't even have to be the same girl each time!:eek:
 
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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So why do you need the invite in? Whaddaya want to do, "Meet the Parents?"

What kind of Focker are you????

:crackup: :p :crackup:
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But I don't want to get invited in.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
But I don't want to get invited in.
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So what were you trying to contribute to the thread with this?


Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh?
Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
No, because her parents are usually home.
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:confused:
 
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Most women won't have a first date at their house unless you're dating sluts or talking about women you've already been out with.
 
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Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So what were you trying to contribute to the thread with this?
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I should be asking you that.


Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh?
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Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I should be asking you that.
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My mere presence is contribution enough. However, we're still questioning your mere existence.
 
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