She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This one works.Originally posted by Swoop
"Can I use your restroom?"
so am I my friend, so am IOriginally posted by AA423
well im talking about after the date.....
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh? No wonder you are looking for ways to trick her into inviting you in...Originally posted by PRMoon
so am I my friend, so am I![]()
No what I'm saying is all it takes for me to get invited into my dates home for after hours entertainment is showing up for what ever dinner/drinking/movie date we scheduled in the first place...sorry I didn't make that clearer.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh? No wonder you are looking for ways to trick her into inviting you in...
So wouldn't be easier to have the date in her house in the first place???!!!Originally posted by PRMoon
No what I'm saying is all it takes for me to get invited into my dates home for after hours entertainment is showing up for what ever dinner/drinking/movie date we scheduled in the first place...sorry I didn't make that clearer.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No, because her parents are usually home.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh?
What kind of women are you dating?Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
No, because her parents are usually home.
So why do you need the invite in? Whaddaya want to do, "Meet the Parents?"Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
No, because her parents are usually home.
There are plenty clubs and bars next to the thousands of hotel rooms here for that.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So wouldn't be easier to have the date in her house in the first place???!!!
But I don't want to get invited in.Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So why do you need the invite in? Whaddaya want to do, "Meet the Parents?"
What kind of Focker are you????
:crackup::crackup:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So what were you trying to contribute to the thread with this?Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
But I don't want to get invited in.
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh?
Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
No, because her parents are usually home.
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So what were you trying to contribute to the thread with this?
Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
So you guys are telling me that the women you date aren't intereseted enough to invite you over to have the date at their place, huh?
My mere presence is contribution enough. However, we're still questioning your mere existence.Originally posted by diplomatic_lies
I should be asking you that.