"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How do you get a girl if you are competing with another alpha?

drift king

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obviously the first thought to come to mind would be to not compete and go hit on other girls logically, but at the end of the day you still don't get this particular girl you're trying to game.

i'm sure many of you must have been in a scenario where you were after a particular girl and when you were out with a group of friends her included, she may have turned up with some guy and be romantically involved or at least in the initial stages with this other guy.

assuming you've been trying to game her too and this is the first time you've seen her with some other guy and it leads to some awkward tension where if you don't pay her any attention you come across as jealous, or if you pay too much it looks like she has you on a piece of string playing you off the other guy.

what does one do to get this particular girl?
assuming you are approaching other women so you don't necessarily have oneitis.. you just would like to bang this particular chick..

what would be the best way to play it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A lot of road racers will tell you that when they race, they pay less attention to "beating the other guy" than to just running the best lap time possible. If you can run the best time humanly possible, "beating everyone else" takes care of itself.

Attractive looking women ALWAYS, ALWAYS have options. If having competition scares you, THINK of what it must be doing to the other guy. Believe that YOU are the force that HE needs to reckon with, not the other way around.
 

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The more willing you are to walk away from her the better your success will be.
 

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Isolate.

Stop trying to get girls by hanging with big groups of mutual friends to build comfort and friendship before asking her out. Just get her digits and ask her out, just the two of you.
 

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Other Alphas scare me! but there is no Alphas around my way only AFCs thus making me the Best!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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to clarify i think its more you meet some girl and your crew and hers decide to meet up for a night out or something and then you see her with some other guy.

true walking away does seem like a valid option, but given that girls are insecure would she not think that you have given up and are not willing to fight for her when you see her with another guy?

to me it almost seems to her you've conceded defeat by walking away

i guess it depends how you play the walking away though..
 
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