"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do you get a girl back to you place?

TheTraveller

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So, I finally have my own apartment and can bring girls over without having to worry about roommates. But what's interesting is that before date #3, the girl may still be feeling things out and not completely ready to come back to my place.

My good first dates usually end up with kino and kissing and a sense of compatibility. It's the 2nd dates that I'm stumped on.

How do I transition on a 2nd date from activity (action date) to then going to my place? The goal here is to take the girl to bed.

Thanks for any tips,
t
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Have her meet you at your place, then take her out wherever. At the end of the "date", she has to come back anyway. Invite her in for a minute. If the date is boring and you're both getting horny, return earlier. :p
 

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That doesn't really work as I'm picking her up. And it'd be a little awkward to invite myself up to her place.

-t
 

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Dear Traveller,
You are right it probably won't work this time,but slowly,slowly,catchee Monkee,for the next date use Squirrels technique,but like a boy Scout be prepared for any eventuality this time,the unexpected does happen.
 

princelydeeds

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Never had this problem, the first date is usually but the second date IS ALWAYS at my house.

"I wanna see you, but I don't feel like going out tonight. Why don't you come over and I'll cook. I have some movies we can watch."
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Traveller,
You are right it probably won't work this time,but slowly,slowly,catchee Monkee,for the next date use Squirrels technique,but like a boy Scout be prepared for any eventuality this time,the unexpected does happen.
Scaramouch, Scaramouch, will you do the Fandango? She invited me back to her place! But of course, performance anxiety with a new girl rears its wonderful head, pun completely intended.
 

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Movies at your place are a must. Work on your movie collection, and your music collection. Both will come in handy.
 

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Go to her place.

Have you thought about going to her place rather yours? Most of my dates, either the girl comes to my place the first date or I at her place the second date. Ask her if is cooks... if she does, invite yourself over. No big deal... if she is interested in you, she won't object. If she is not, then you know where you both stand.
 

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Dear Traveller,
The Fandango?delighted dear boy.....Look with Women you never let them get their feet under your table,if you can go to her place that is Sugared Honey....Seems you are in Like Flynn,as for the Movies?yeah....but you go to her place,be entertainment Wallah,don't forget to have a quarter of a Cialis or Viagra pill this time that would raise it on a dead Donkey.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jesus, just have a few drinks and things should fall into place..


Tell her you WILL NOT allow her to drive drunk and that she can use your bed and you'll sleep on the couch



I personally belive that a girl has pre-decided whether or not she is going to sleep with a guy..... work it, be cool, be funny, and take that ***** home
 

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just ask her if she wants to go back and drink or something but do it in a very casual way were she doesnt feel threatened or pressured into sex. but then make your move.
 

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Dear King Billy,
"I personally belive that a girl has pre-decided whether or not she is going to sleep with a guy",That's my understanding too.
 
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