"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do you get a girl back to you place?

TheTraveller

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So, I finally have my own apartment and can bring girls over without having to worry about roommates. But what's interesting is that before date #3, the girl may still be feeling things out and not completely ready to come back to my place.

My good first dates usually end up with kino and kissing and a sense of compatibility. It's the 2nd dates that I'm stumped on.

How do I transition on a 2nd date from activity (action date) to then going to my place? The goal here is to take the girl to bed.

Thanks for any tips,
t
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Have her meet you at your place, then take her out wherever. At the end of the "date", she has to come back anyway. Invite her in for a minute. If the date is boring and you're both getting horny, return earlier. :p
 

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That doesn't really work as I'm picking her up. And it'd be a little awkward to invite myself up to her place.

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Dear Traveller,
You are right it probably won't work this time,but slowly,slowly,catchee Monkee,for the next date use Squirrels technique,but like a boy Scout be prepared for any eventuality this time,the unexpected does happen.
 

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Never had this problem, the first date is usually but the second date IS ALWAYS at my house.

"I wanna see you, but I don't feel like going out tonight. Why don't you come over and I'll cook. I have some movies we can watch."
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Scaramouche said:
Dear Traveller,
You are right it probably won't work this time,but slowly,slowly,catchee Monkee,for the next date use Squirrels technique,but like a boy Scout be prepared for any eventuality this time,the unexpected does happen.
Scaramouch, Scaramouch, will you do the Fandango? She invited me back to her place! But of course, performance anxiety with a new girl rears its wonderful head, pun completely intended.
 

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Movies at your place are a must. Work on your movie collection, and your music collection. Both will come in handy.
 

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Go to her place.

Have you thought about going to her place rather yours? Most of my dates, either the girl comes to my place the first date or I at her place the second date. Ask her if is cooks... if she does, invite yourself over. No big deal... if she is interested in you, she won't object. If she is not, then you know where you both stand.
 

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Dear Traveller,
The Fandango?delighted dear boy.....Look with Women you never let them get their feet under your table,if you can go to her place that is Sugared Honey....Seems you are in Like Flynn,as for the Movies?yeah....but you go to her place,be entertainment Wallah,don't forget to have a quarter of a Cialis or Viagra pill this time that would raise it on a dead Donkey.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Jesus, just have a few drinks and things should fall into place..


Tell her you WILL NOT allow her to drive drunk and that she can use your bed and you'll sleep on the couch



I personally belive that a girl has pre-decided whether or not she is going to sleep with a guy..... work it, be cool, be funny, and take that ***** home
 

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just ask her if she wants to go back and drink or something but do it in a very casual way were she doesnt feel threatened or pressured into sex. but then make your move.
 

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Dear King Billy,
"I personally belive that a girl has pre-decided whether or not she is going to sleep with a guy",That's my understanding too.
 
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