Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
THIS! A while back a girl who had plenty of 100's of picture likes and plenty of followers, many who were better looking than me took a real liking to me. It never worked out but after I asked her what attracted her to me. Her answer was because I didn't act like a total faggot showering her with compliments all the time like the others and just treat her like she was a normal lass and I was actually above her. Weird but I guess females love the alpha male.Zerro said:
How do you destroy that damn pedestle judge nimso?nismo-4 said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SamTheHobit said:
Easy, view her as average, remember that no pu$$y is golden, don't put her on a pedestal, bust on her (joke about her hair, purse etc.) and frame yourself as the prize. Be sexual from the get go and don't be scared to take risks for escalation. Even after all of this, she'll either like you or spike you. If you're spiked, just move on. Regardless, doing this is better than being a Facebook e-orbiter chump that read 5 pages of PUA and hit on her.SamTheHobit said:
