How do you forget about a girl?

[Brighty]

I cannot get her out of my fvcking head and its driving me insane. It seems like I can't help but think of her.

It's really starting to piss me off. What do you guys do to get over girls?

 

[Igetit!]

I cannot get her out of my fvcking head and its driving me insane. It seems like I can't help but think of her.

It's really starting to piss me off. What do you guys do to get over girls?

The most common answer is just to date other girls,but really,the one thing that ALWAYS works (for me,at least) is time. The longer you are out of her presense,the less you'll think about her. After a while,you won't even remember what's her name. Hmmm,my spider sense is tingling. Hey,you're not talking about the same girl you made the other thread about are you? You know,the thread in which you asked if you're in the friendzone as soon as a girl talks about her boyfriend?

 

[Brighty]

The most common answer is just to date other girls,but really,the one thing that ALWAYS works (for me,at least) is time. The longer you are out of her presense,the less you'll think about her. After a while,you won't even remember what's her name. Hmmm,my spider sense is tingling. Hey,you're not talking about the same girl you made the other thread about are you? You know,the thread in which you asked if you're in the friendzone as soon as a girl talks about her boyfriend?

Ahh, no, not the same girl, although because I hung around that girl, I did make this one hot girl crazy jealous and now she won't leave me alone. Which is nice.


What I'm talking about is the same girl from http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155907 , just minus the lifestory. The huge problem is that I see her in the hallway everyday and I have a class with her, despite her sitting on the other side of the room. I'm trying everything to get over her, but whenever I see her I get that fluttery feeling in my stomach and I can't seem to help it.

 

[TheDoctor]

If it's just a girl you know and are slightly infatuated with, find another, hotter girl to focus your attention on. If it's an ex girlfriend that you loved, good luck. You have a long road ahead of you. Hit the gym, hit the hobbies hard core. Hang out with your friends.

These things will distract you and get you through the time at hand. Only time will heal. If and when the thoughts creep into your head, entertain them for a few seconds, then focus your thoughts on something else. Don't dwell on the thoughts, it will eat you from the inside.

Good Luck

 

[Igetit!]

Wow. I didn't know you had class with the girl. I didn't even know you were in school. I read the other thread,and it shed a little light on the situation. She has a boyfriend. So unless you're up for a little drama,and potentially ending up in a fight for a girl who might not even choose to be with you,the best thing to do would be to just move on. The fact of the matter is this:YOU DO have class with her,and YOU WILL HAVE see her in the hallway. And until you graduate,this is just how it's going to be. So that "feeling" you get in your stomach (or wherever it is) ,you'll just have to keep getting it until you don't get it anymore. Maybe if you speak to her,say "What's up?,"Hey",or whatever you want to say,this will make things less awkward whenever you pass her in the hallway. That's the good part. The bad part is if you do this long enough,it's friendzone city. But if she already has a BF,then what difference does it make.

 

[hover411]

I'm having a similar problem bro, about a girl i posted about also.

It f-ckin sucks......

 

[Ollie]

Time and tested method: GFTOC

Go Fvck Ten Other Chicks

Works every time or your money back

 

[Alle_Gory]

Time and tested method: GFTOC

Go Fvck Ten Other Chicks

Works every time or your money back

So what happens when he obsesses about something else?


Its an obsession and an unhealthy thought cycle. Control yourself. Think about something else, or nothing at all. Meditate to control your thoughts.

 

[BlakeW5]

If it's just a girl you know and are slightly infatuated with, find another, hotter girl to focus your attention on. If it's an ex girlfriend that you loved, good luck. You have a long road ahead of you. Hit the gym, hit the hobbies hard core. Hang out with your friends.

Yep. If it's just a girl shouldn't be a problem. If it's someone you love it's going to be hard, trust me.

Time tends to be the best. Break ALL contact, do anything to keep your mind off her (it won't fully work but it helps), and hang with your buddies

 

[WC2]

Your obsession is unhealthy and it's degrading to your lifestyle.

It's one thing to be bent out of shape about an EX, but to be totally obsessed with girl who you have not been intimate with is an unhealthy infatuation.

So now to the answer to your question..

Sadly, there are 2 ways you quickly stop being infatuated with this girl.

1. You make a move and fail.
2. You make a move and succeed.

If you don't make a move, this fantasy is just going to keep lingering around in your head till it comes to a pulp.. and you'll probably try to make a move on her anyways when it comes to that point. The downside is that you'll be so obsessed with her that your nerves are going to kick in and you'll fail miserably.

So why not just get it out of the way now?

It's easy as, "hey I was thinking.. you're a cute girl and I'm not a bad looking guy.. why don't we get together tonight?"

Yes, if she answers no then you'll be devastated.

But in the long run, it's healthier. Get this chick out of your mind for godsakes. There are too many fish in the sea.

If she says yes, then you'll find out what your infatuating about finally.

You never really know a chick till you've been intimate with her for a good amount of time. By then, I guarantee you that these false beliefs of her being some sexual goddess will have escaped from your mind; you'll take her for granted.

Either way you must do something.

If not, you'll drive yourself crazy forever.

 

[Brighty]

Your obsession is unhealthy and it's degrading to your lifestyle.

It's one thing to be bent out of shape about an EX, but to be totally obsessed with girl who you have not been intimate with is an unhealthy infatuation.

So now to the answer to your question..

Sadly, there are 2 ways you quickly stop being infatuated with this girl.

1. You make a move and fail.
2. You make a move and succeed.

If you don't make a move, this fantasy is just going to keep lingering around in your head till it comes to a pulp.. and you'll probably try to make a move on her anyways when it comes to that point. The downside is that you'll be so obsessed with her that your nerves are going to kick in and you'll fail miserably.

So why not just get it out of the way now?

It's easy as, "hey I was thinking.. you're a cute girl and I'm not a bad looking guy.. why don't we get together tonight?"

Yes, if she answers no then you'll be devastated.

But in the long run, it's healthier. Get this chick out of your mind for godsakes. There are too many fish in the sea.

If she says yes, then you'll find out what your infatuating about finally.

You never really know a chick till you've been intimate with her for a good amount of time. By then, I guarantee you that these false beliefs of her being some sexual goddess will have escaped from your mind; you'll take her for granted.

Either way you must do something.

If not, you'll drive yourself crazy forever.

Thank you very much for the advice, guys, especially you WC2. I'll keep you guys posted on how it goes. Alle I've always wanted to have better control over my thoughts (would make falling asleep a lot easier) and meditation has always appealed to me. How would you go about starting off as a newb at meditation?

 

[Drewskie]

The best way to get over someone, is to get under someone else. Period.

 

[Crazy Asian]

accept that you will not get every girl.
understand that you WILL improve and get better girls, and not getting this girl is only a reflection of your current skills level.... and that should motivate ou even more to succeed.
meet new people.

 

[daygameguy]

I cannot get her out of my fvcking head and its driving me insane. It seems like I can't help but think of her.

It's really starting to piss me off. What do you guys do to get over girls?

Simple. Start liking another one.

 

[xdreamz]

quite obvious .. cut off all contact with her.


if there was something worthwhile then it wouldn't be forgotten.

 

[Alle_Gory]

quite obvious .. cut off all contact with her.

if there was something worthwhile then it wouldn't be forgotten.

What if he does this again with a new girl? How many times can he run away?

He needs self control, and he needs to figure out the reason for this obsession. Its not healthy. Its addictive.

 

[nismo-4]

1. Try to find another chick to date.

2. Cut off all contact with whoever dumped you.

3. Learn some new tricks for your game.

4. If you're in music/ entertainment, focus hard on it...can u say groupies = easy sex + no effort?

5. Chill and play Mega Man 2 or Mega Man 3.