I'm having a difficult time forgetting about this lady. I've been trying to keep busy, but it isn't really helping me. Talked to other girls, but I still think about her at times. I honestly liked her and it wasn't just a sexual thing. What do you guys do to forget?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How do you fellas get over a girl?
- Thread starter YoungQuas
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Once you find one you like, you'll move on. Not to say you won't always remember this one, but you will move on.
There's a woman out there holding the antidote to your sickness. You really will see what I mean when she suddenly appears in your life. You'll feel your chemistry changing, like shedding a skin. You just haven't met her yet, that's all.
That's what I reckon anyway.
There's a woman out there holding the antidote to your sickness. You really will see what I mean when she suddenly appears in your life. You'll feel your chemistry changing, like shedding a skin. You just haven't met her yet, that's all.
That's what I reckon anyway.
BustedKnucks
Don Juan
It takes TIME.
You can distract yourself with work, hobbies, the gym or new girls, but in the end it takes time.
There's no exact amount but the longer you go without talking to her the less you'll remember her until you find yourself having forgotten her almost completely.
You can distract yourself with work, hobbies, the gym or new girls, but in the end it takes time.
There's no exact amount but the longer you go without talking to her the less you'll remember her until you find yourself having forgotten her almost completely.
BustedKnucks
Don Juan
It sucks, especially if you're coming out of a serious LTR. Best bet is to stay busy because dwelling on memories of her just sucks.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Meditation. It is the act of mental discipline. It will help you get over her quicker and aid you in other ways in your life.YoungQuas said:
The more discipline and control you have over yourself, the more powerful and effective you are as a person. Self-control is liberating. It allows you to do what you want, when you want without distractions getting in your way.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Since I am in a history lesson kind of mood, and all the best has been said, here you go, young grasshopper:
you dodged a bullet, son!
More Pook: read up!
you dodged a bullet, son!
More Pook: read up!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
GameTime76
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It takes time and time is on your side. Just focus on yourself. Lift weights, go to work, read books, hang with your friends, play sports or whatever. There are Ex's that I'm completely over with but, sometimes I still have memories of them. Its natural so dont worry about it. When, the time is right you'll be chasing & fvcking new girls.