I'm having a difficult time forgetting about this lady. I've been trying to keep busy, but it isn't really helping me. Talked to other girls, but I still think about her at times. I honestly liked her and it wasn't just a sexual thing. What do you guys do to forget?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How do you fellas get over a girl?
- Thread starter YoungQuas
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Once you find one you like, you'll move on. Not to say you won't always remember this one, but you will move on.
There's a woman out there holding the antidote to your sickness. You really will see what I mean when she suddenly appears in your life. You'll feel your chemistry changing, like shedding a skin. You just haven't met her yet, that's all.
That's what I reckon anyway.
There's a woman out there holding the antidote to your sickness. You really will see what I mean when she suddenly appears in your life. You'll feel your chemistry changing, like shedding a skin. You just haven't met her yet, that's all.
That's what I reckon anyway.
BustedKnucks
Don Juan
It takes TIME.
You can distract yourself with work, hobbies, the gym or new girls, but in the end it takes time.
There's no exact amount but the longer you go without talking to her the less you'll remember her until you find yourself having forgotten her almost completely.
You can distract yourself with work, hobbies, the gym or new girls, but in the end it takes time.
There's no exact amount but the longer you go without talking to her the less you'll remember her until you find yourself having forgotten her almost completely.
BustedKnucks
Don Juan
It sucks, especially if you're coming out of a serious LTR. Best bet is to stay busy because dwelling on memories of her just sucks.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Meditation. It is the act of mental discipline. It will help you get over her quicker and aid you in other ways in your life.YoungQuas said:
The more discipline and control you have over yourself, the more powerful and effective you are as a person. Self-control is liberating. It allows you to do what you want, when you want without distractions getting in your way.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Since I am in a history lesson kind of mood, and all the best has been said, here you go, young grasshopper:
you dodged a bullet, son!
More Pook: read up!
you dodged a bullet, son!
More Pook: read up!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
GameTime76
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It takes time and time is on your side. Just focus on yourself. Lift weights, go to work, read books, hang with your friends, play sports or whatever. There are Ex's that I'm completely over with but, sometimes I still have memories of them. Its natural so dont worry about it. When, the time is right you'll be chasing & fvcking new girls.