I'm having a difficult time forgetting about this lady. I've been trying to keep busy, but it isn't really helping me. Talked to other girls, but I still think about her at times. I honestly liked her and it wasn't just a sexual thing. What do you guys do to forget?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How do you fellas get over a girl?
- Thread starter YoungQuas
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Once you find one you like, you'll move on. Not to say you won't always remember this one, but you will move on.
There's a woman out there holding the antidote to your sickness. You really will see what I mean when she suddenly appears in your life. You'll feel your chemistry changing, like shedding a skin. You just haven't met her yet, that's all.
That's what I reckon anyway.
There's a woman out there holding the antidote to your sickness. You really will see what I mean when she suddenly appears in your life. You'll feel your chemistry changing, like shedding a skin. You just haven't met her yet, that's all.
That's what I reckon anyway.
BustedKnucks
Don Juan
It takes TIME.
You can distract yourself with work, hobbies, the gym or new girls, but in the end it takes time.
There's no exact amount but the longer you go without talking to her the less you'll remember her until you find yourself having forgotten her almost completely.
You can distract yourself with work, hobbies, the gym or new girls, but in the end it takes time.
There's no exact amount but the longer you go without talking to her the less you'll remember her until you find yourself having forgotten her almost completely.
BustedKnucks
Don Juan
It sucks, especially if you're coming out of a serious LTR. Best bet is to stay busy because dwelling on memories of her just sucks.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Meditation. It is the act of mental discipline. It will help you get over her quicker and aid you in other ways in your life.YoungQuas said:
The more discipline and control you have over yourself, the more powerful and effective you are as a person. Self-control is liberating. It allows you to do what you want, when you want without distractions getting in your way.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
Since I am in a history lesson kind of mood, and all the best has been said, here you go, young grasshopper:
you dodged a bullet, son!
More Pook: read up!
you dodged a bullet, son!
More Pook: read up!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
GameTime76
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It takes time and time is on your side. Just focus on yourself. Lift weights, go to work, read books, hang with your friends, play sports or whatever. There are Ex's that I'm completely over with but, sometimes I still have memories of them. Its natural so dont worry about it. When, the time is right you'll be chasing & fvcking new girls.