"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how do you feel about girls snooping through YOUR phone?
- Thread starter strong like bull
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
i wouldn't even want to look in my gf's phone. i know she's popular and has a zillion male and female friends and if i started reading msgs i'd just get jealous so i save myself the trouble.
All i know is that most of her txt msgs are to me and she always answers promptly and she does me on a regular basis and that's good enough for me.
Perhaps it seems like an egotistical stance, but yes, I probably am happy to be able to say that I resisted the temptation to snoop - As are all of you, apparently, considering the fact that you're all taking this "moral" position by arguing this point in the first place.
And you should be proud of yourselves -
Respecting someone else's boundaries is something that, apparently, not everyone is able to do. But it doesn't mean that everyone is this way.
What a sad world it truly is if, as TesuqueRed says, it is unrealistic to expect that other people will respect our privacy. Why is this the rule and not the exception?
Maybe because not many of us are able to respect and love others as we do ourselves; i.e., most of us are simply too selfish.
Again, don't tempt them and they won't snoop. (sigh) Just like you wouldn't leave $1,000 laying on the seat of your car with the door unlocked...
Some would steal the money, others wouldn't...
Those who steal also have no respect for the boundaries of others.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Abbott
Master Don Juan
Use a password.
Here are some guidelines:
- Make it nonsensical, so no one can guess it.
- At least ten characters long. If you can remember longer passwords, then do.
- This builds on the first guideline, but make sure it can't be found in an English dictionary. Ideally it can't be found in any other dictionary either, but not a big deal since there are too many different languages.
- No middle names, birthdays, SSNs, favorite color, or anything else associated with you.
- Like your ATM PIN number, remember it. Don't write it down. Oh yeah and don't use your pin number. If you MUST write it down, put the piece of paper into your safe deposit box, and don't label it. Just write the password.
Ideally you'd also:
- Use punctuation in the password.
- Mix case, so some letters are uppercase and others are lowercase.
- Put some numbers into the password.
- Keep your phone with you at ALL times. In my room when I sleep I charge it on a table near my bed. When I shower I keep it on the bathroom counter (risky but it's the best you can do). Basically, don't leave it someplace when in public, at someone else's place, or when someone's at your place and they don't live there.
- If your Phone has Bluetooth or other wireless capability, turn it off and turn it on only as needed.
Other ideas:
- Use a formula to mess up the password more. The Cryptoquip puzzle in some newspapers (or at least in my local paper) is a very simple example of this.
- Don't use the same password for your phone as what you have for anything else (E-mail, Windows Login, AIM, Sosuave, etc.)
My $.02,
Ben
Good_ol_boy
Senior Don Juan
Hah, those who steal have mammas and priests/ministers/rabbis who failed to teach them "ethics" and "honisty"!!
Y'know it's obvious that it's easier to steal $1,000 bucks laying on the seat of an unlocked car than it is to earn that $1,000 bucks. Although I do not believe that this site is condoning this sort of "take the easy way out" mentality when it comes to picking up chicks.