She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
women do not fu** comedians.flyspy said:I want to apply some of the ****y funny stuff I see that some people are able to do. How do I become better at recognizing good oppurtunities to be funny and going about and implementing it?
youknowtherest said:I'd recommend a night course at a community college in improvisational theater. It worked for me. Ever see that show, "Whose Line is it Anyway?" Those guys could be funny under any circumstances. I'm not nearly that good, but I'm a lot faster on my feet when I started applying what I learned from the class.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I appreciatte your need to flame.Ace of Flames said:Some of you guys talk about being funny like its a crime. "Hell no screw that, you have to be serious not no fuggin entertainment!". Did you guys ever think that you can develop something about yourself without the intent of seducing women? My point is, maybe he just wants to be funny for the sake of being funny. Being able to make people laugh is a powerful skill. Laughing makes people happy, and if you can control what makes people happy.... you get it know? Stop trying to condesend and sound kool.
Ace of Flames said:Um.... calm down? I wasn't flaming anyone.
I just don't wanna see everyone turn into robots. You don't have to conform to the rules all the time you know. Be funny if you want, its all part of your personality. Don't be humorless zombies.
I must be the only one around here who remembers what the DJ is really all about. When it comes to girls, you're something different. A breath of fresh air. You aren't an insecure loser that fawns over her, but you aren't this serious, over-the-top seduction bot either. You're fun, and you're funny. You keep it light and interesting. You make the moves, but you don't force or rush anything. You take your time and enjoy it, because you're in control. And you make sure that she enjoys it too, which she should be, since she's with a great guy like you.
I don't get that impression from anyone on this site anymore. Not nearly enough. Most guys on here today only care about themselves. Its sad.... it really is.
Anyone agree?