Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you want to make it obvious...you want her to know you're interested which gives her the opportunity to tell you indirectly whether or not she's interested...Jokerlsk said:Hahaha well, I don't want to make it seem to obvious man. I think she likes me because i don't shower her w/ attention. I think i'll just make her sit w/ my and my bros haha.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Fail. Don't post misinformation.f283000 said:dude are you FN kidding me? you want us to teach you how to text? here let me answer your question with 1 simple answer
DON'T TEXT!!!! if you want to be a woman's friend you text her, if you want to be her lover you FN talk to her face to face, got it?
texting, myspace, emails, these are ways you get into the friend zone. Sure you can send her a couple texts....TO SET UP A DATE SOON AFTER YOU MEET HER! if you do well and shes your gf than thats the end of txting.
other than that text messaging should be kept for friends, not girls you're trying to dig out.