"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how do you escape giving ultimatums?

cNfny

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i've read people who are offered ultimatums usually take the less resistant way out, for example..

bf - if you see that guy tonight then we are done!
gf - that's easy, bye.

maybe a bad example? haha but none the less, i think this is a trouble spot for some people to PROPERLY word what they want WITHOUT sounding like the recepient needs to make a final decision.

inputs, hints, tips would be great. thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This is why you don't get a girlfriend if your jealous.

Ultimatums are a turn-off.

When you do them you reveal yourself as unfun.
 

cNfny

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This is why you don't get a girlfriend if your jealous.

Ultimatums are a turn-off.

When you do them you reveal yourself as unfun.
so how would you go about it? if you were suspicious of a gf?
 

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cNfny said:
so how would you go about it? if you were suspicious of a gf?
why be together in the first place? jealousy is a weakness, suspicion with cause is not jealousy...
 

cNfny

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i'm just asking for future reference. to avoid past AFC decisions/moves.

any tips?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cNfny said:
i'm just asking for future reference. to avoid past AFC decisions/moves.

any tips?
If you feel that you cannot trust your gf, dump her. (You may still ***' her whenever you like thought)

If you feel that you CAN trust your gf, dont ask ultimatums.

Its as easy as that
 

Bvbidd

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IMO you can NEVER trust your gf, so if your a jealous guy it's best not to have one.
 
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