"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you escalate with younger girls?

f283000

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went out with a 19 year old (im 25) first time i went out with a girl so young and outta my age range. During our conversations I tried my best to avoid silent moments but everytime I asked her a question she would answer with short, vague answers which did not leave me the opportunity for follow up questions to keep her talking. So it was really hard to try to make a connection with her and even kino her because of her short answers i felt she was showing me low interest level thus i was weary about too much kino/escalating. She not once touched me or even flirted with me. She went out with me the first time I asked and agreed to go out with me again so she has accepted everytime i asked which shows she is interested but...

So i'm just wondering. When i told a friend about my date he told me this is expected since young girls don't know how to communicate yet and hold conversations like adults and don't care about anybody but themselves (which is why she didn't even ask me a question). So her behavior was not a statement of her interest level of me. Not only that he told me that they are not attuned to their sexuality yet so they won't flirt/make any moves.

I just wanted to get confirmation from you guys on the above or maybe it was just her? she did mention her weight to me and how she wanted to lose 10 pounts (showing he has low self steam) and mentioned during out txt conversations before our date how it takes her time to show affection. Any tips on how to escalate to kissing with this girl on my second date or any other tips if she will just not show me any sexual signals or show that much interest level.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MisterMcGee

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19 isn't that young. They are perfectly socially capable by that age.
 

Solomon

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^^^basically

Young chicks love to laugh, so you gotta make them laugh. I prefer a mature young chick but thats eeeh
 

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She could just be shy. I've been with much younger girls who can easily hold a conversation and are VERY much in tune with their sexuality. Try raising her interest level a little more. How long have you know her?
 

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Take the lead and dominate them. They're so inexperienced and flighty that's what it takes a lot of times.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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