"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do you define success?

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i want to know everybody's definition of the word: successful?

is it money?
is it girls?
is it friends?


i myself define success=happiness, this goes beyond a DJ but as a human being... lets hear your definition...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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success, happiness, and control as well as many other adjectives are relative. Few people will share the same frame of refrence so my success isn't really comparable to others. I am happy knowing that I do dictate my own success and happiness though and for me that is what matters.
 

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Success is when i accompish something i wanted to do.
 
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friends
girls
money
health
high social status
success at school
entertaining life

Currently, I only don't have success at school. I will definitely work on it the next year, I realized that it's the last thing I need to be 100% happy and confident although it took me over a year to admit it to myself.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Success is just a means to and end. Don’t chase success itl end up controlling your life.
 

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Success is acheiving what you set out to achieve.

By this definition I am not yet there, but by societies low standards I am extremely successful.

The only real losers are people who never tried to get anywhere out of fear or those who quit before they got there out of fatigue. So it is entirely reltive.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I define success by how I feel about myself afterwards.

If I get my ego boost/dopamine rush, then I'd consider myself a success. If I don't, I wonder why, but I quickly move on.

I want to get off on it when I do something, and when I don't ... nothing is more discouraging than that.
 
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success to me is being satisfied with yourself and the work you have done. not being afraid to let anyone know what you have done in life,no matter what aspect.
 

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To me, success is primarily:

1. Freedom - to be controlled is failure. Everyone is under the control of someone else, its just that the more successful people are less under the control of others. Therefore, one could say that money=freedom, which it does in most cases.

2. Enjoyment - I want to live life doing things I enjoy, without anyone holding me back, which relates to point number 1.


3. Companionship - This isn't about girls. To have good people in your life that will stick with you through it all is a true success. Real friends are hard to come by these days, but once you've found them, its like striking gold.

4. Closure - getting everything I want to get done, done - leaving no loose ends.

It is these things that will truly make me happy, and thus successful in life.
 

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The answer to this question is....the question.

To clarify, the answer to this question is this: how do you define success?
 

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What do you mean?

Re-define it so that you're already successful?

That's the only way I can think of to become successful without changing who you are and what you do with yourself.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Success for me would be riding in a limo, getting a bj from a hot supermodel, while snorting coke off the ass of another hot supermodel.
 

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Success, as a word itself, is of course defined as accomplishing a goal.

But what I'm sure you mean is, how do you define a successful life?

If, a few years ago, someone had asked me what my ultimate goal in life was, I would have told them, "to be happy."

But lately I've realized that happiness is not enough for me. Happiness is merely a feeling, often brought on by the ego fulfilling its own goals. If all you want out of life is to be happy, that's easy. Listen to what society tells you and follow the path it wants you to follow. Feel free to indulge in entertainment for hours every day, living stagnantly for the rest of your life. You'll be happy when your favorite TV show comes on, or when your wife gives you a good time in bed. When you buy a nice sports car you'll be thrilled.

But at the end of the day, what's the point? No, happiness is not enough for me. I seek to become fulfilled. I seek to achieve. I seek to understand. When I'm old in my bed, about to push off, I don't want to think to myself, "what the hell happened?" I want to think to myself, "man, I really lived."
 

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I would not call sucess getting women...That is base line....We are meant to have sex, so getting women is just average as far as I am concerned.

But this brings forth another issue.
Has culture been wussified so much that we have forgotten what is important? But that is not here nor there...I'll leave it for the next world:)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

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