"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
How do you deal with your adhd?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not ready yet to give in depth review
I once took ritalin at age 17 and it was powerful, felt really calm.. today it feels different, maybe cause my expectations were high
"Natural" alternative is meditation
lamath
Master Don Juan
Imo that need for stimulation if well directed is one big advantage both physically and mentally.
Makes you think outside the box , see pattern and make deductions others cant.
However some focus and self control is needed for it to be use optimally, in this time and age of too much information and distraction it is getting harder and harder for most ppl with ADD to fit in and excels.
Too often now it become a liability. Probably why its diagnosed more and medicamentation are over-prescribed.
I had un-diagnose ADD without hyperactivity, until 5 years ago.
The psychiatrist was surprise i was able to get the result i did in school and college with the severity of it.
Same with my brother he finished his Phd a few year ago without even knowing.
School was easy college was harder because i was not able to stay focus on the teacher material for very long when in class, so like said earlier hard work and determination is how i did it.
Got a concerta prescription but i try to just use it when i really need it.
Things i find the hardest is planification, procrastination, time management and boring work.
Being self-employed now i can say that without a proper work structure its hard af. Working for someone else in a control setting would probably be better but not sure id like it more.
Funny how some of the severe case i know are self medicating with weed, alcohol and other drugs.
I think the best natural remedy is exercise for me it need to be something more intense and exhausting.
Nutrition and sleep are also important.
Physical work is also something very good and something i would consider if i was younger.
Caffeine can also help but for me it got to a point that the quantity needed was way to high.
What i try to do now
Setting up reminders on my phone
Delegating as much as possible the things that are the hardest for me to do.
To do list and check list when my lack of planification and pro-crastionation does not prevent it.
Using timer for certain task
Trying to stick to a sleep schedules
Waking up early alots less distractions when everyone is sleeping.
Better eating habits better food and also the timing, waiting too long to eat plays with my focus and makes me eat bad food.
Meditation not succesful atm
App that limits my time on my phone and pc. App Detox for my phone