"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do you deal with the aloof girl?

RNR

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I'm talking the type of girl that barely reaches out to you and doesn't make any effort to contact you and when you talk to her she acts aloof. I have this problem alot. How do i deal with it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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chrisgoodrich25

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RNR said:
I'm talking the type of girl that barely reaches out to you and doesn't make any effort to contact you and when you talk to her she acts aloof. I have this problem alot. How do i deal with it?
just next her..don't waste time chasing her if she doesn't seem interested
 

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chrisgoodrich25 said:
just next her..don't waste time chasing her if she doesn't seem interested
I wish it was one girl. It would make it very simple to just move on lol it seems to be every girl i meet just lately so im thinking im probably being needy or something
 

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I have to disagree. If there's a girl I really fancy. I just remain ****y and persistent. Eventually it will pay off. But very few girls actually can charm me in such a way.
 

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RNR said:
I wish it was one girl. It would make it very simple to just move on lol it seems to be every girl i meet just lately so im thinking im probably being needy or something
We all go through dry spells.

I would just focus on myself for a bit if I were you and be the aloof guy that THEY chase after.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dont waste your time..im going through the same thing.....i just keep moving on to the next one
 

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Kino her. I've recently kino'd a stuck up b!tch. Now she "dresses" for/ looks for me/ spies on me, when I'm in the room at a later date or something.

When I touched her shoulder in a friendly way, she acted a little like "wtf are you touching me for?" but she didn't want to make a scene, so I just rolled off the touch, but nonetheless, I touched her, and she probably rarely gets touched by guys (her parents locked her up in the basement her entire life), and now sees some guy who will.
 
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