You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Maybe I'm still inexperienced but sometimes they really try to make you feel bad/guilty for not being their "friend".abe0 said:I tend to respond to the first text by being polite...."doing well, thanks for asking"....I do not ask how they are doing nor ask any further questions to invite a wasteful conversation. If they text back again...I ignore and hopefully they get the message. If I really do not care at all because she is truly an attention grabbing b+tch....then I totally ignore so that they GO AWAY. Abe
So just ignore?PlayHer Man said:How do you deal with girls that just want to be "friends"? --> YOU DON'T.
Men with options who are spinning plates don't have time to be a faggot beta orbiter for some arrogant attention wh0re.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PlayHer Man said:How do you deal with girls that just want to be "friends"? --> YOU DON'T.
Men with options who are spinning plates don't have time to be a faggot beta orbiter for some arrogant attention wh0re.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
So if you're her friend you're automatically a level 60 beta orbiter? Ahaha. OP if you want to be friends with them then be friends with them. If you get friend zoned then stopped talking to them.PlayHer Man said:How do you deal with girls that just want to be "friends"? --> YOU DON'T.
Men with options who are spinning plates don't have time to be a faggot beta orbiter for some arrogant attention wh0re.
Good one bro.....lolskinnyguy said:Try to put your hand down her shirt or caress her legs.
If she resists, it's her fault for leading you on. Just say "I thought you were into me". Win win situation for you.
Let them try. Why would you care what a woman you're not f*cking thinks?teddy said:So just ignore?
Like I said above, some of these women try their best to make you feel guilty.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.