"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do you Deal with Flaking

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slickaz

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i know mentally its easy to say NEXT her.

but when a chic is flakin you, emotionally its harder to next? coz its not about the girl, its about you getting flaked on..like are you not good nuf at catchin IOI? what was wrong in my game? why did she show high IOI then flake?

do you find that you feel annoyed? at yourself <for not trying harder maybe> or the girl <for just being a witch>?

my first time cold approach bombed.yeh so im kinda like...should i ever try cold approach again?...

i know some of you will say deal with it idiot! i am trying...

PS: this is the 3rd chic that has flaked on me in recent months..

Ive never been flaked on..so i dont know whats going on!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonJoseCantosie

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Not necessarily true Amante Silvestre....flakes are what we MUST encounter in the game. No matter what seduction style you do, you will have to deal with flakes down the line. The reason they happen is because there is something that could've been improved when talking to her. Overtime, as u improve approaches...flakes will reduce. Its the challenge to test ur dedication to succeed. Only the worthy would feel frustration but get through it. If a guy in the game never felt frustration, sadness and anger while in the game, then he's very vulnerable later down the line if a girl "plays" him. He'll be a broken spirit. These things are crucial, because we're human and we need to let out our negative emotions that are inside.

I'm not saying the game should be gloomy and stuff. Its a wonderful experience i bet, but im just saying...getting there...is a challenge and is a test to ur desire.

But Topic creator just 3 Flakes? Thats it? Oh man...wait till u reach atleast 10-15 lol. Welcome to the flake period man. This will last prolly a few weeks to a month if ur going out consistenly. After that, u should be getting solid numbers.

Definitely consider this a good thing rather than bad...think about it...if u didn't get flaked on this early...u would have no idea what u possibly could improve in approaches. But since ur getting flakes, u can catch "What u could improve on" earlier and then overall improve better. :-D
 
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Flakes should be like water rolling off your shoulder. Theres no reason they should ever annoy you. Like DJC said, flakes can only help you. You let them falter your confidence and they hurt you.

Let's face it.. a chick flaking on you should be the least of your worries. Especially if you've landed chicks successfully before and know you can do it. Everytime a woman flakes on me I move directly on to the next target without even thinking about it. Maybe later I will try to decide WHY she flaked, but I never think too far into it. Women and flaking are so random and complicated that it's pointless to obsess.

Sometimes women flake because they are in a bad mood. Sometimes women flake because they are in PMS mode. Sometimes women even flake because they are too afraid they'll come off slutty. So many reasons. Just keep moving along.
 
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+1 Rep WC2, yea some women even flake because of society conditioning and not doing what they deep down want. The best way to overcome flaking, as WC2 said...is just move on to the next woman. That's the power we truly got...abundance!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This is why you should never take anything like this with women too seriously....... keep it fun and take it lightly, if she flakes well hey you have to take it as "she just missed out on some fun" and we all know girls just wanna have fun. So when a flake happens you act the opposite of how she would want/expect you to react to it, (ACT NOT REACT) simply by being unaffected and giving off the vibe of she could of had so much in your prescence but now she is missing out.

think - I "WANT" her
I "WANT" her but don't "NEED" her
I "WANT" her but she "NEEDS" me

Like WC2 stated it should be like water rolling off your shoulder.
 
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i consider flaking just another random factor into the mind of the female. Usually i just Next the chick and go for the next hottie i see. It's simply a number game gentlemen.
 
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