"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you Deal with Flaking

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slickaz

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i know mentally its easy to say NEXT her.

but when a chic is flakin you, emotionally its harder to next? coz its not about the girl, its about you getting flaked on..like are you not good nuf at catchin IOI? what was wrong in my game? why did she show high IOI then flake?

do you find that you feel annoyed? at yourself <for not trying harder maybe> or the girl <for just being a witch>?

my first time cold approach bombed.yeh so im kinda like...should i ever try cold approach again?...

i know some of you will say deal with it idiot! i am trying...

PS: this is the 3rd chic that has flaked on me in recent months..

Ive never been flaked on..so i dont know whats going on!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonJoseCantosie

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Not necessarily true Amante Silvestre....flakes are what we MUST encounter in the game. No matter what seduction style you do, you will have to deal with flakes down the line. The reason they happen is because there is something that could've been improved when talking to her. Overtime, as u improve approaches...flakes will reduce. Its the challenge to test ur dedication to succeed. Only the worthy would feel frustration but get through it. If a guy in the game never felt frustration, sadness and anger while in the game, then he's very vulnerable later down the line if a girl "plays" him. He'll be a broken spirit. These things are crucial, because we're human and we need to let out our negative emotions that are inside.

I'm not saying the game should be gloomy and stuff. Its a wonderful experience i bet, but im just saying...getting there...is a challenge and is a test to ur desire.

But Topic creator just 3 Flakes? Thats it? Oh man...wait till u reach atleast 10-15 lol. Welcome to the flake period man. This will last prolly a few weeks to a month if ur going out consistenly. After that, u should be getting solid numbers.

Definitely consider this a good thing rather than bad...think about it...if u didn't get flaked on this early...u would have no idea what u possibly could improve in approaches. But since ur getting flakes, u can catch "What u could improve on" earlier and then overall improve better. :-D
 
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Flakes should be like water rolling off your shoulder. Theres no reason they should ever annoy you. Like DJC said, flakes can only help you. You let them falter your confidence and they hurt you.

Let's face it.. a chick flaking on you should be the least of your worries. Especially if you've landed chicks successfully before and know you can do it. Everytime a woman flakes on me I move directly on to the next target without even thinking about it. Maybe later I will try to decide WHY she flaked, but I never think too far into it. Women and flaking are so random and complicated that it's pointless to obsess.

Sometimes women flake because they are in a bad mood. Sometimes women flake because they are in PMS mode. Sometimes women even flake because they are too afraid they'll come off slutty. So many reasons. Just keep moving along.
 
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+1 Rep WC2, yea some women even flake because of society conditioning and not doing what they deep down want. The best way to overcome flaking, as WC2 said...is just move on to the next woman. That's the power we truly got...abundance!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is why you should never take anything like this with women too seriously....... keep it fun and take it lightly, if she flakes well hey you have to take it as "she just missed out on some fun" and we all know girls just wanna have fun. So when a flake happens you act the opposite of how she would want/expect you to react to it, (ACT NOT REACT) simply by being unaffected and giving off the vibe of she could of had so much in your prescence but now she is missing out.

think - I "WANT" her
I "WANT" her but don't "NEED" her
I "WANT" her but she "NEEDS" me

Like WC2 stated it should be like water rolling off your shoulder.
 
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i consider flaking just another random factor into the mind of the female. Usually i just Next the chick and go for the next hottie i see. It's simply a number game gentlemen.
 
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