"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do you deal with emotional chicks?....this girl got so fvckin emotional

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this girl has been hanging around me and my friends for about a month now. shes cool always down to party and have fun. i kind of want her for some reason i dont know why. me and her have done a bunch of sh1t together etc. after hanging out with her ive found out her mom died like a year ago or maybe less than that and she also broke up with her bf of 2 years. probably stemming from that. i know i would be fvcked up for a while also if that happened to me.
last night she was over my house and every one was drinking but then me and her stayed up after every one went to bed. we eventually got drunk. then she just lost it. first she started saying sh1t like everyone in my house talks sh1t about her which is totally untrue then she said something about me saying something about her being obsessed with someone (untrue). then she started balling about her mom like you dont understand and all this other sh!t. i just kept saying i can imagine but i probably dont understand. i know shes unstable right now and has issues she needs to handle

she feel asleep and she woke up and texted me like 15 mintues after she left.
her: i am sorry for getting upset not a good week to drink i should have gone home.
me: i dont remember everything but dont worry about it its all good.
her:well thank you then i am crazy but not usually emotional
me: haha i know

how do deal with this sh!t? yea i can just ignore it i kept trying to change the subject but its hard when someone is ballin hard. ive hung out with her alot and never saw this side of her. i knew it existed from what my roomate has said. guess i was at the wrong place and at the wrong time when she lost it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It may of been like she said and she was just having a rough night and drank a bit too much.

She's been through some bad emotional trauma of losing a parent so this is natural.

If things persist in a negative and crazy direction with her though next her.

If she improves and treats you better and better continue on as you were and have fun with her.
 
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Be a rock, stay fully present with her through all her emotions. She doesn't want you to solve her problems she's just letting it all out.

Your going to have to get used to emotional girls if you want a girl I think :p
 
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well my ex was very emotional day in and day out in fvckin drained me eventually. i was just listening to her saying im trying to understand etc. and told her to be stronger and shell be alright.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She was reacting to the alcohol. Just don't get her drunk. It'll be ok. a lot of girls get more emotional when they are drunk, and women are just emotional anyway. She's not looking for advice. If she was, she'd ask for it. All you have to do is be sympathetic when she gets that way. Girls don't want advice, the just want to talk out their feelings.
 
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