"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do you deal with drama?

seethehoop

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Just wondered how you guys dealt with women's drama.

Long story short, a girl I am seeing (call her C) has a friend, who I have never me but other week I teased C by saying I was gonna get her friends mobile and chat her up. As a joke C got her friend to text me instead. A few joke flirt messages later it dies off. No biggie.

Today, I was teasing C again about her friend and said I would message her friend about the pic she promised me. Any way I sent her friend saying "Oi, where's my dirty pic" I was just playing them at their own game but the response I got was pretty much: "its just a windup, youre not getting one. dont message me again"

I didnt respond but C sent me a message saying it backfired and her friend isnt impressed etc. I said I didnt really care and left it at that.

Later I got a vmail of C saying I messed up and her friend is annoyed at me.

Its also worth noting that both these girls work together and C knows I was just doing it to wind her up and I am not really after her friend so I dont understand why its escalated and why C wouldnt just tell her I am messing about and winding them both up.

I still havent responded. Personally, I CBA with the drama so I think Im just gonna let it hang there see how it plays out cos its so pathetic its unreal, and its not even C who is annoyed at me. Of course we all know a girl's friends can make or brake you though. So I just wondered how you guys deal with pathetic drama such as this.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pinkfl

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Let me get this straight:

you "tease" threatened to flirt up her friend
you then flirted with her friend when she texted you
And then you asked for a nude picture
And now you're wondering why there is drama?

1. When her friend texted you, you should have said "hey I was just teasing "c", I wasn't actually going to flirt with you." and left it at that.
2. They both think you are a pig right now. If you're seeing a girl, you don't flirt with her friend. At all.

Sorry...but you kind of brought this on yourself.
 

seethehoop

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No it was all congruent. C only asked her friend to flirt with me as a test to see if I had the balls as a bit of a joke. C isn't even bothered. She thinks it's funny, it's her friend who is causing the drama even though she flirted with me as part of the joke. All I was doing was carrying the joke on.
 
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