I'm at a loss here. I know that to go out with a hot girl, it's different and you have to get them to want you but I don't know how to get a hot girl to want you so anyway, I've been talking to this girl a little, just being nice and stuff since I don't really know her, she is really good looking and a lot of people think so, but now I want to start picking up the pace a bit but I don't know what to do. I don't know how to deal with a girl who is hot and quiet. What should I do? What should you do with a girl that is quiet? All help is greatly appreciated.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How do you deal with a girl who is hot and quiet?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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any other details?
she can be quiet and... nice... or sassy... or a b1tch...
more details please.
i can help maybe since i had a KINDA similar thing.
she can be quiet and... nice... or sassy... or a b1tch...
more details please.
i can help maybe since i had a KINDA similar thing.
I've talked her a few times and she seems incredibly nice, she's just quiet. When I talk to her she doesn't really ask me any questions but elaborate a bit on things I asked her. This kid told me she's a preppy b1tch, but I've seen no evidence of that, at least when I talked to her so I want to keep talking to her and find out more.Michele said:any other details?
she can be quiet and... nice... or sassy... or a b1tch...
more details please.
i can help maybe since i had a KINDA similar thing.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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not much to say to you.
either...
1) she doesn't like you... in that kind of way.
or
2) you need to GET HER talking. read www.sosuave.com's Articles, Quick Tips, and/or Hall of Fame ... and conversation topics in the The DJ Bible
here's a hint... people LOVE talking about themselves... now read the above links to learn how properly converse about the person you're talking about. (some people have no idea how... and ask RANDOM questions in a row that aren't relevant to the previous question... they have horrible game.)
pretty much read up on it before you force her to lose interest with boring conversations.
either...
1) she doesn't like you... in that kind of way.
or
2) you need to GET HER talking. read www.sosuave.com's Articles, Quick Tips, and/or Hall of Fame ... and conversation topics in the The DJ Bible
here's a hint... people LOVE talking about themselves... now read the above links to learn how properly converse about the person you're talking about. (some people have no idea how... and ask RANDOM questions in a row that aren't relevant to the previous question... they have horrible game.)
pretty much read up on it before you force her to lose interest with boring conversations.
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
with quieter girls it's better to turn down the C+F and turn up the rapport/comfort. Advice I need to remember, because I have trouble decreasing the C+F...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
Make fun of her LIGHTLY. You know your in when she slaps your arm or dishes out any kino.
rottweiler_273
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intersting...does anyone think this is the case even when uve been in the friend zone for a long time?Themanthatcan said:Make fun of her LIGHTLY. You know your in when she slaps your arm or dishes out any kino.
I do talk to her when I can. It's kind of rare that I get a chance though, because she is just a pretty quiet person. And since she's naturally a quiet person, I just don't really know what to say.Berlex said:talk to her?
nicenomore
Senior Don Juan
Another line you can tell her:
I've noticed you're kind of shy , people may think you're a ***** , but i think you're really a person who likes to know people before revealing themselves to others.
(The point is that you're not afraid to call her out on a *****iness)
Its a golden line from Tyler D , worked for me too...
Explaination by Tyler :
If shes actually a shy girl , she will think "OMG , this guy really understands me
I've noticed you're kind of shy , people may think you're a ***** , but i think you're really a person who likes to know people before revealing themselves to others.
(The point is that you're not afraid to call her out on a *****iness)
Its a golden line from Tyler D , worked for me too...
Explaination by Tyler :
If shes actually a shy girl , she will think "OMG , this guy really understands me
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I gotta watch that movie again, I don't remember that line.nicenomore said:Another line you can tell her:
I've noticed you're kind of shy , people may think you're a ***** , but i think you're really a person who likes to know people before revealing themselves to others.
(The point is that you're not afraid to call her out on a *****iness)
Its a golden line from Tyler D , worked for me too...
Explaination by Tyler :
If shes actually a shy girl , she will think "OMG , this guy really understands me
I say at first, be a bit ****y and Funny, but don't be as full-fledged as if you were talking to a more outgoing gal. Almost every woman has enough of a sense of humor to appreciate such humor, but some need it in smaller doses. As she warms up to you, turn up the dial on C+F slowly to keep her interested. Don't go wussy-boy on her just because she's not exactly outgoing. She just doesn't know how to express herself. You can break her out of her shell through this method.
-Sachiel, DJ in Training
-Sachiel, DJ in Training
nicenomore
Senior Don Juan
Berlex said:I gotta watch that movie again, I don't remember that line.
Dude , the Tyler I refer too, is Tyler D , founder CEO- Real Social dynamics.
Its not the one from Fight club