I'm at a loss here. I know that to go out with a hot girl, it's different and you have to get them to want you but I don't know how to get a hot girl to want you so anyway, I've been talking to this girl a little, just being nice and stuff since I don't really know her, she is really good looking and a lot of people think so, but now I want to start picking up the pace a bit but I don't know what to do. I don't know how to deal with a girl who is hot and quiet. What should I do? What should you do with a girl that is quiet? All help is greatly appreciated.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How do you deal with a girl who is hot and quiet?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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any other details?
she can be quiet and... nice... or sassy... or a b1tch...
more details please.
i can help maybe since i had a KINDA similar thing.
she can be quiet and... nice... or sassy... or a b1tch...
more details please.
i can help maybe since i had a KINDA similar thing.
I've talked her a few times and she seems incredibly nice, she's just quiet. When I talk to her she doesn't really ask me any questions but elaborate a bit on things I asked her. This kid told me she's a preppy b1tch, but I've seen no evidence of that, at least when I talked to her so I want to keep talking to her and find out more.Michele said:any other details?
she can be quiet and... nice... or sassy... or a b1tch...
more details please.
i can help maybe since i had a KINDA similar thing.
Michele l'Arcangelo
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not much to say to you.
either...
1) she doesn't like you... in that kind of way.
or
2) you need to GET HER talking. read www.sosuave.com's Articles, Quick Tips, and/or Hall of Fame ... and conversation topics in the The DJ Bible
here's a hint... people LOVE talking about themselves... now read the above links to learn how properly converse about the person you're talking about. (some people have no idea how... and ask RANDOM questions in a row that aren't relevant to the previous question... they have horrible game.)
pretty much read up on it before you force her to lose interest with boring conversations.
either...
1) she doesn't like you... in that kind of way.
or
2) you need to GET HER talking. read www.sosuave.com's Articles, Quick Tips, and/or Hall of Fame ... and conversation topics in the The DJ Bible
here's a hint... people LOVE talking about themselves... now read the above links to learn how properly converse about the person you're talking about. (some people have no idea how... and ask RANDOM questions in a row that aren't relevant to the previous question... they have horrible game.)
pretty much read up on it before you force her to lose interest with boring conversations.
The Shocker
Senior Don Juan
with quieter girls it's better to turn down the C+F and turn up the rapport/comfort. Advice I need to remember, because I have trouble decreasing the C+F...
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Themanthatcan
Senior Don Juan
Make fun of her LIGHTLY. You know your in when she slaps your arm or dishes out any kino.
rottweiler_273
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intersting...does anyone think this is the case even when uve been in the friend zone for a long time?Themanthatcan said:Make fun of her LIGHTLY. You know your in when she slaps your arm or dishes out any kino.
I do talk to her when I can. It's kind of rare that I get a chance though, because she is just a pretty quiet person. And since she's naturally a quiet person, I just don't really know what to say.Berlex said:talk to her?
nicenomore
Senior Don Juan
Another line you can tell her:
I've noticed you're kind of shy , people may think you're a ***** , but i think you're really a person who likes to know people before revealing themselves to others.
(The point is that you're not afraid to call her out on a *****iness)
Its a golden line from Tyler D , worked for me too...
Explaination by Tyler :
If shes actually a shy girl , she will think "OMG , this guy really understands me
I've noticed you're kind of shy , people may think you're a ***** , but i think you're really a person who likes to know people before revealing themselves to others.
(The point is that you're not afraid to call her out on a *****iness)
Its a golden line from Tyler D , worked for me too...
Explaination by Tyler :
If shes actually a shy girl , she will think "OMG , this guy really understands me
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I gotta watch that movie again, I don't remember that line.nicenomore said:Another line you can tell her:
I've noticed you're kind of shy , people may think you're a ***** , but i think you're really a person who likes to know people before revealing themselves to others.
(The point is that you're not afraid to call her out on a *****iness)
Its a golden line from Tyler D , worked for me too...
Explaination by Tyler :
If shes actually a shy girl , she will think "OMG , this guy really understands me
I say at first, be a bit ****y and Funny, but don't be as full-fledged as if you were talking to a more outgoing gal. Almost every woman has enough of a sense of humor to appreciate such humor, but some need it in smaller doses. As she warms up to you, turn up the dial on C+F slowly to keep her interested. Don't go wussy-boy on her just because she's not exactly outgoing. She just doesn't know how to express herself. You can break her out of her shell through this method.
-Sachiel, DJ in Training
-Sachiel, DJ in Training
nicenomore
Senior Don Juan
Berlex said:I gotta watch that movie again, I don't remember that line.
Dude , the Tyler I refer too, is Tyler D , founder CEO- Real Social dynamics.
Its not the one from Fight club