rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
I know by using c&f with a bit of teasing and some kino cud start off some attraction, but any other tips?, i am wondering what could make her see u has a man instead of a friend?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How do you create attraction
- Thread starter rushing dude 123
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
ready123
Master Don Juan
dude 75% of the techniques you can find on the internet are for attraction
- C&F
- Sexual State
- Story-telling
- Cold-reads
- Intrigue
- Playing Games
- Compliance Techniques
- Role-playing
- Push-Pull
- Jealousy Plot Lines
There are a ton more and you don't have to know all of them to be good with women. I never tell stories because I suck at them and I don't read palms or do stuff like that
And to keep things in perspective, when you're outside your head having a good night, you'll end up doing most of these without thinking about it because they're all natural elements of a fun interaction.
- C&F
- Sexual State
- Story-telling
- Cold-reads
- Intrigue
- Playing Games
- Compliance Techniques
- Role-playing
- Push-Pull
- Jealousy Plot Lines
There are a ton more and you don't have to know all of them to be good with women. I never tell stories because I suck at them and I don't read palms or do stuff like that
And to keep things in perspective, when you're outside your head having a good night, you'll end up doing most of these without thinking about it because they're all natural elements of a fun interaction.
newyorkman
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Dress well. Wear black or red. Spend some $$ on clothes. Let nothing phase you. Act like you dont care what happens. Nothing sets you off.
CORVETTE06
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yeah spend money on clothes
personally i like dkny, armani exchange, guess, abercrombie and fitch
make sure u smell good too. get the colgone "gucci" its really good
personally i like dkny, armani exchange, guess, abercrombie and fitch
make sure u smell good too. get the colgone "gucci" its really good
Sure fire way to create attraction
It starts with your parents. Good genetic stock will get you further than just about anything else. Growing up, don’t fall into the trap of sitting around watching television or playing video games. Instead ride your bicycle, climb trees and rocks, play ball with the neighborhood kids, and chase your dog down long rows of corn. Make regular trips to the library and check out a wide variety of books and read. Get your parents to take you to as many different and interesting places as possible. Make sure that you are always curious and polite, smile often as your life is fun.
As you pass puberty, advance into more rigorous athletic competition, running, swimming, tennis, football, basketball. Make sure that your reading gets into deeper and deeper subjects, embrace the abstract. Learn about art and color and music, see the world around you, embrace it. Don’t just accept what others tell you, make up your own mind, decide things for yourself.
As you get to high school make sure that you join in extracurricular activities. Go to the dances, ask a girl or two to dance, be friendly, smile, have fun. Learn to dress well. Be your own man, engage everyone but remain yourself.
Continue on through your college years, always growing, always improving, always playing.
Then when you hit your physical peak somewhere around 25 you’ll be able to look in the mirror and see a man whose body is like a Greek statue, perfected in its proportions by growing up active. Your posture will reveal your confidence. You’ll see a face that can deliver a wide range of expressions, eyes that penetrate softly, and a mind that knows much, sees much, and can tell of interesting things. You’ll have learned to let your hair down, to move easily in this society or that. And you’ll have a wide range of skills and developed talents.
Women will see that you have become a man as no other. They will be thinking about all the other men who’ve approached them, who they've known and realize that all the others had so little to offer, certainly their bodies aren’t in as good a condition, their faces not so enjoyable to look at, their stories not nearly as interesting, their movements lacking your grace, your tastes. As they come to know you they will be continually impressed in all that you do, all that you can do. And they see the goodness in you that they just don’t see in the world around them.
It starts with your parents. Good genetic stock will get you further than just about anything else. Growing up, don’t fall into the trap of sitting around watching television or playing video games. Instead ride your bicycle, climb trees and rocks, play ball with the neighborhood kids, and chase your dog down long rows of corn. Make regular trips to the library and check out a wide variety of books and read. Get your parents to take you to as many different and interesting places as possible. Make sure that you are always curious and polite, smile often as your life is fun.
As you pass puberty, advance into more rigorous athletic competition, running, swimming, tennis, football, basketball. Make sure that your reading gets into deeper and deeper subjects, embrace the abstract. Learn about art and color and music, see the world around you, embrace it. Don’t just accept what others tell you, make up your own mind, decide things for yourself.
As you get to high school make sure that you join in extracurricular activities. Go to the dances, ask a girl or two to dance, be friendly, smile, have fun. Learn to dress well. Be your own man, engage everyone but remain yourself.
Continue on through your college years, always growing, always improving, always playing.
Then when you hit your physical peak somewhere around 25 you’ll be able to look in the mirror and see a man whose body is like a Greek statue, perfected in its proportions by growing up active. Your posture will reveal your confidence. You’ll see a face that can deliver a wide range of expressions, eyes that penetrate softly, and a mind that knows much, sees much, and can tell of interesting things. You’ll have learned to let your hair down, to move easily in this society or that. And you’ll have a wide range of skills and developed talents.
Women will see that you have become a man as no other. They will be thinking about all the other men who’ve approached them, who they've known and realize that all the others had so little to offer, certainly their bodies aren’t in as good a condition, their faces not so enjoyable to look at, their stories not nearly as interesting, their movements lacking your grace, your tastes. As they come to know you they will be continually impressed in all that you do, all that you can do. And they see the goodness in you that they just don’t see in the world around them.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction without action is just that, attraction. Many chicks are attracted to me but I never get to go out with any because I never take any action.
Originality creates attraction. I'm not going to tell you to be yourself but I will advice you not to be someone else.
Always remember. Unless you are on the scale of 10 in terms of look not everyone will be attracted to you. What I'm saying is don't spend tons of dollars on clothes but spend tons of time on improving yourself because your personality will create the attraction more than your $200 shoes!~
Originality creates attraction. I'm not going to tell you to be yourself but I will advice you not to be someone else.
Always remember. Unless you are on the scale of 10 in terms of look not everyone will be attracted to you. What I'm saying is don't spend tons of dollars on clothes but spend tons of time on improving yourself because your personality will create the attraction more than your $200 shoes!~
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
The main thing that gets you attraction is your personality... If you convey you have an attractive personality, thats all that really matters.
Make sure your clothes match your personality/identity... Don't just dress nice, Dress to convey who you are. But of course make it a nice you.
like stated earlier, Story telling, cold-reads, role playing etc... All those things help convey your personality very quickly, which in turn create attraction very quickly.
.....Confidence, Alpha, Funny, Social Intelligence, Strength (internal), Child like behavior (playful).... These are attractive personality traits that I would develop stronger. Its simply becoming a better you.
Don't become attractive, be attractive.
Make sure your clothes match your personality/identity... Don't just dress nice, Dress to convey who you are. But of course make it a nice you.
like stated earlier, Story telling, cold-reads, role playing etc... All those things help convey your personality very quickly, which in turn create attraction very quickly.
.....Confidence, Alpha, Funny, Social Intelligence, Strength (internal), Child like behavior (playful).... These are attractive personality traits that I would develop stronger. Its simply becoming a better you.
Don't become attractive, be attractive.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
trojanman88
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giving value
rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
thanks guys, i made things a bit to complicated and forgot about the basics. I will use this thread has a reminder if a forget again. Thanks for the advice on colgone and clothes as well, I already bought some nice clothes and i am starting to not wear all the nike crap. I also totally understand what ur saying potato, i have started dance lessons, starting to learn how to play pool, akidio started just recently and a few things i am going to sign on in january and feburary, heck i might even take up the guitar.
DJ1234
Senior Don Juan
Attraction is created by the multitudes of techniques and methods that are here on sosuave in addition to what attractive qualities you may have..
Negs, charm, push-pull, c+f, dominance...etc.
Anything that removes a person's validation in a fun and playful way creates attraction toward you....this is a good question,...pretty much a huge part of the dj bible is dedicated to this if you haven't got the idea...
Negs, charm, push-pull, c+f, dominance...etc.
Anything that removes a person's validation in a fun and playful way creates attraction toward you....this is a good question,...pretty much a huge part of the dj bible is dedicated to this if you haven't got the idea...
sandman6991
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It all starts from the beginning...
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
TheRealSupreme
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-AXTx4PcKIChrizZ said:
No, pvzzy is for closer. I like your sig file movie. Powerful. Now apply that to the game style that I teach. I have NO sympathy for losers. I only want to work with men who are ready to step it up and do the work!
Derek Flint
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Nearly everything posted above is a shortcut or a gimmick which doesn't change your inner self which is where the problem is.
Ask yourself why you end up as "friends" with the women you have been attracted to, or at least this one.
All the advice in the world will not do you a bit of good because it will only address the symptoms, not the cause.
Analogy: Painting over rust will not remove the rust, but it will just hide the rust temporarily, and the rust will continue to spread while it is hidden and will eventually become exposed again but even more so.
This is one of the reasons I'm against many of the various seduction "methods" out there because they don't address the cause, just the symptoms.
Ask yourself why you end up as "friends" with the women you have been attracted to, or at least this one.
All the advice in the world will not do you a bit of good because it will only address the symptoms, not the cause.
Analogy: Painting over rust will not remove the rust, but it will just hide the rust temporarily, and the rust will continue to spread while it is hidden and will eventually become exposed again but even more so.
This is one of the reasons I'm against many of the various seduction "methods" out there because they don't address the cause, just the symptoms.
Derek Flint
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I couldn't disagree more with what you stated above which I bolded.DJ1234 said:
Lowering someone's value to raise your own value is about as AFC as it gets.
People who actually are "High Value" don't need to demonstrate it, or "Neg" or anything else.
They can demonstrate High Value without saying a word.
People with Low Value tend to resort to tricks and tactics and "Negs" and other gimmicks to falsely inflate their value.
funketekun
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imaginary project.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.