RichardTheFrog
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Some have mentioned that you can use money to get into social circles. But how? Down town where I live, the best you can do is pay for a cover to a club, but that's not exactly prestigious.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
How do you buy your way into social circles?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
TheGambino
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Pay me on paypall and Ill make a whole guide about how to get intoo social networks.
I need money, you need information. Let's do business?
I need money, you need information. Let's do business?
RichardTheFrog
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The famous @da dynamically said he does this.
@TheGambino make sure you charge him at least $250 per hour of your work
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't bother trying unless you want to get taken for a ride.
Strive to be a person people look up to and want to be associated with, everyone will want to be your friend. You can't *buy* your way into friendship/relationship----> once the money goes so will they.
Strive to be a person people look up to and want to be associated with, everyone will want to be your friend. You can't *buy* your way into friendship/relationship----> once the money goes so will they.
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Buy more hookers. Boom! Social circle increased and right up your alley. Or 40 lbs of coke and hit the strip club.
For the record I've never done drugs.......just trying to help him find his nitche based on his lifestyle and ceiling lol
For the record I've never done drugs.......just trying to help him find his nitche based on his lifestyle and ceiling lol
TheGambino
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This nigga online All mofo day, Im going to a sick party tonight, expect a lit field report tommorow fellas
RichardTheFrog
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I'm not a nigga.
Actually, I spent all day flipping a house. Ever heard of smart phones?
You = deadbeat dad of the future
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RichardTheFrog
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How have I been taken advantage of?
RichardTheFrog
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My money will never go away, but I'm wondering if this was even possible. @da dynamically himself said he did this and it's how he used his money effectively without actually paying for sex.
I don't even know where or if these places exist.
RichardTheFrog
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I don't usually pay for nothing. Which is what the offer was from Mr. Broke Deadbeat Dad of the Future who only gets lucky because he's still a schoolboy.
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1. I don't think you flip houses.
2. I don't think you flip houses.
Why? Because you have zero common sense on here or with women (obviously).
Common sense, getting women and business go hand in hand. With out the first once you're totally fvcked in life. That would be you.
2. I don't think you flip houses.
Why? Because you have zero common sense on here or with women (obviously).
Common sense, getting women and business go hand in hand. With out the first once you're totally fvcked in life. That would be you.
RichardTheFrog
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Please tell me what kind of business you run. I doubt it's even much of a business in the first place. Lots of people refer to themselves as business owners, but the point would be if the business makes a decent amount of money.
You're right, I don't flip houses. I'm on the first one right now. So it is inaccurate to say that I flip houses until this one is sold.
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You're right, you do need common sense with women. Probably why I rarely talk to them and don't keep one around as a gf because what is the logical reason for needing them for anything besides sex? Probably why I can see through their high "SMV" and see the REAL worthless center.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TheGambino
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How did You aquire This?
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You quite the early wakeup guy
, I bet.Its quite à business, usually once you get in a sector.. you are set
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Richard what is meant by saying "buy your way into social circles" is this:
You can pay to be a member of certain organizations or you can pay for things that give you entree into social circles you otherwise wouldn't have had access to previously. For example, if you join an exclusive and expensive health club (there is one near me that runs $175/month for an individual - family memberships are much higher) you'll be moving in more successful social circles JUST by joining that club. So other people you meet and chat with in that club are going to be more affluent rather than less. Often times these type clubs have social calendars and as a member you are included and invited to various events. People who can't afford the cost of the membership are generally not going to be present, so you'll be moving in circles with a wealthier group of folks. These folks will also be MORE INFLUENTIAL as a group than the general population so they are good to know.
Another example would be becoming an art patron or a theater patron or becoming a donor to a charity that you want to assist. In buying art from higher end galleries, or going to the theater regularly (or becoming a donor) or benefiting a charity you'll meet other people who have money because these are things people with money do. You'll be invited to various events thanks to your purchase and/or your patronage and this does have social benefits.
Finally you can do this by frequenting high end venues (the expensive steakhouse with the swanky lounge/bar area for example). You go there to eat, but if you sit at the bar and chat to other diners, you'll be chatting to other people who can afford and choose to eat in an exclusive or expensive venue.
So you are buying your way in, but indirectly if that makes sense. You aren't paying to play with the cool kids, except you ARE, it's just you are paying for a piece of art or a club membership and the social advantages are a side effect.
You can pay to be a member of certain organizations or you can pay for things that give you entree into social circles you otherwise wouldn't have had access to previously. For example, if you join an exclusive and expensive health club (there is one near me that runs $175/month for an individual - family memberships are much higher) you'll be moving in more successful social circles JUST by joining that club. So other people you meet and chat with in that club are going to be more affluent rather than less. Often times these type clubs have social calendars and as a member you are included and invited to various events. People who can't afford the cost of the membership are generally not going to be present, so you'll be moving in circles with a wealthier group of folks. These folks will also be MORE INFLUENTIAL as a group than the general population so they are good to know.
Another example would be becoming an art patron or a theater patron or becoming a donor to a charity that you want to assist. In buying art from higher end galleries, or going to the theater regularly (or becoming a donor) or benefiting a charity you'll meet other people who have money because these are things people with money do. You'll be invited to various events thanks to your purchase and/or your patronage and this does have social benefits.
Finally you can do this by frequenting high end venues (the expensive steakhouse with the swanky lounge/bar area for example). You go there to eat, but if you sit at the bar and chat to other diners, you'll be chatting to other people who can afford and choose to eat in an exclusive or expensive venue.
So you are buying your way in, but indirectly if that makes sense. You aren't paying to play with the cool kids, except you ARE, it's just you are paying for a piece of art or a club membership and the social advantages are a side effect.
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It's a 53 year old business. I knew the former owner very well and he had a heart attack several years before and was ready to retire. So I bought him out. It was a good deal for the both of us. I took the business and expanded it, as well as increased the revenue and lowered overhead. In getting ready to open another location.
Before that I was a consultant for a big corporation based in NJ/NYC.
I've been in the glass business for 12 years now. Don't think my butt didn't pucker when I left a great paying job to walk out on a thin limb when I bought the business. It was a risk, but I was young enough then to recover if it didnt work out.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.