"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How do you best respond to this sort of flake?

SickAgain

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At this point it doesn't really matter how many games and things of such you want to play. Just convince yourself that this girl isn't worth it and try to enjoy yourself at the concert with her. If the concert is awkward and feels sour just try to meet some other girls there. Really hot chicks are completely meetable at concerts. A girl that isn't your GF isn't worth worrying or contemplating about. In close, just wait til the concert and see how she reacts through that venue, forget all this myspace and 21st century game killing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SickAgain said:
At this point it doesn't really matter how many games and things of such you want to play. Just convince yourself that this girl isn't worth it and try to enjoy yourself at the concert with her. If the concert is awkward and feels sour just try to meet some other girls there. Really hot chicks are completely meetable at concerts. A girl that isn't your GF isn't worth worrying or contemplating about. In close, just wait til the concert and see how she reacts through that venue, forget all this myspace and 21st century game killing.
I see this as 10x more difficult, because she will know I am ignoring her and things will turn automatically sour the day of the concert...when all of a sudden I make a phone call to find out where she is....she will instantly banter about me ignoring her, or hell not even answer her phone.


So I need a good way to respond to her apology and message that I have not read yet :D
 

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My girlfriend flaked out on me a few times early on, before we were a couple - very simular situation as in the OP. I was just about to give up on her when her sister told me that she had cried the one day that she flaked on me, worried that I wouldn’t like her anymore. Turns out that she was just stressed out by the whole thing, an anxiety attack I guess, you know girls and their emotions.

I’m just saying, give her the benefit of doubt. If I was you I’d just play it cool like it was no big deal. Go to the concert, play it by ear. If it works out, it works out, if it doesn’t, well at least you tried. Just look at it as an adventure. You should just enjoy yourself no matter what.
 

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potato said:
My girlfriend flaked out on me a few times early on, before we were a couple - very simular situation as in the OP. I was just about to give up on her when her sister told me that she had cried the one day that she flaked on me, worried that I wouldn’t like her anymore. Turns out that she was just stressed out by the whole thing, an anxiety attack I guess, you know girls and their emotions.

I’m just saying, give her the benefit of doubt. If I was you I’d just play it cool like it was no big deal. Go to the concert, play it by ear. If it works out, it works out, if it doesn’t, well at least you tried. Just look at it as an adventure. You should just enjoy yourself no matter what.
Thanks for the great advice but I need to know how to respond to her messages and comments! hahaha
 

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Ah I have hungout with her 3 times and Didn't kiss close....she did have high interest. But it had faded for sure.

I think I have 1 more chance....even if it is the concert.

there is NO SUCH THING as "high interest" unless you **** her, and **** her good
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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damn bro, you are tripping out over this girl... over analyzing everything. you have responding to your own thread like 10000 times. if you wanna respond to her on myspace then do it, you wanna call her then do it!!! the hardest thing to change is who you are, just be yourself, if she doenst like that, then fvck her!
also, if you really like this girl, then you should of offer to buy her ticket also, it's only a few bucks, and don't be such a cheap ass, women hate that, but don't be stupid and pay for everythinng.
 
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