"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you best respond to this sort of flake?

SickAgain

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At this point it doesn't really matter how many games and things of such you want to play. Just convince yourself that this girl isn't worth it and try to enjoy yourself at the concert with her. If the concert is awkward and feels sour just try to meet some other girls there. Really hot chicks are completely meetable at concerts. A girl that isn't your GF isn't worth worrying or contemplating about. In close, just wait til the concert and see how she reacts through that venue, forget all this myspace and 21st century game killing.
 

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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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pvf94

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SickAgain said:
At this point it doesn't really matter how many games and things of such you want to play. Just convince yourself that this girl isn't worth it and try to enjoy yourself at the concert with her. If the concert is awkward and feels sour just try to meet some other girls there. Really hot chicks are completely meetable at concerts. A girl that isn't your GF isn't worth worrying or contemplating about. In close, just wait til the concert and see how she reacts through that venue, forget all this myspace and 21st century game killing.
I see this as 10x more difficult, because she will know I am ignoring her and things will turn automatically sour the day of the concert...when all of a sudden I make a phone call to find out where she is....she will instantly banter about me ignoring her, or hell not even answer her phone.


So I need a good way to respond to her apology and message that I have not read yet :D
 

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My girlfriend flaked out on me a few times early on, before we were a couple - very simular situation as in the OP. I was just about to give up on her when her sister told me that she had cried the one day that she flaked on me, worried that I wouldn’t like her anymore. Turns out that she was just stressed out by the whole thing, an anxiety attack I guess, you know girls and their emotions.

I’m just saying, give her the benefit of doubt. If I was you I’d just play it cool like it was no big deal. Go to the concert, play it by ear. If it works out, it works out, if it doesn’t, well at least you tried. Just look at it as an adventure. You should just enjoy yourself no matter what.
 

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potato said:
My girlfriend flaked out on me a few times early on, before we were a couple - very simular situation as in the OP. I was just about to give up on her when her sister told me that she had cried the one day that she flaked on me, worried that I wouldn’t like her anymore. Turns out that she was just stressed out by the whole thing, an anxiety attack I guess, you know girls and their emotions.

I’m just saying, give her the benefit of doubt. If I was you I’d just play it cool like it was no big deal. Go to the concert, play it by ear. If it works out, it works out, if it doesn’t, well at least you tried. Just look at it as an adventure. You should just enjoy yourself no matter what.
Thanks for the great advice but I need to know how to respond to her messages and comments! hahaha
 

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pvf94 said:
Ah I have hungout with her 3 times and Didn't kiss close....she did have high interest. But it had faded for sure.

I think I have 1 more chance....even if it is the concert.

there is NO SUCH THING as "high interest" unless you **** her, and **** her good
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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damn bro, you are tripping out over this girl... over analyzing everything. you have responding to your own thread like 10000 times. if you wanna respond to her on myspace then do it, you wanna call her then do it!!! the hardest thing to change is who you are, just be yourself, if she doenst like that, then fvck her!
also, if you really like this girl, then you should of offer to buy her ticket also, it's only a few bucks, and don't be such a cheap ass, women hate that, but don't be stupid and pay for everythinng.
 
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