You need to go back to the basics. First of all, NEVER, EVER, cry for a week because some hoe-bag left you. I mean, common dude,,, you're 19 years old?? YOu need to brush that sh*t off and move to the next one..
She probably DID want a "nice guy" (or think she wants one), but she wants and what she responds to are 2 different things.. She responds to someone who has more balls.. So while you can be a "nice guy",, hell, I hate that word,, you can be a "good person", but you have to be courageous as well... in other words, don't let her run all over you like she did...
It is OK to get mad sometimes.. if you're pissed off you're pissed off, and it is OK to stand up for your self.. and quite truthfully, at 19 years old, you need to be testestorone filled idiot to get the most chicks at that age.. lol.. just the way it is.. not saying you'll become this guy or even want to be this guy, but understand some of the qualities that attract women to that type of guy:
1) you don't really give a sh*t about ANYTHING
2) you game up multiple girls and she knows other girls want you (don't get busted, but feel free to date other girls on the side.. look, chances are, you're not gonna marry this chick,,or any chick at this age.. you will be TONS more confident if you got like 4 or 5 girls on the side,, this will help you with step number 1 listed above
.. you don't care if one leaves because you have all these other ones, yhou pretty much dont' even think about it.. one day hopefully you'll get to the point where if you stop seeing some girl you might not even realize it until she texts you months later for a "catch uP' and you be like "awww damn, I forgot all about that girl" lol... that's a good place to be at
3) You LEAD the relationship and you're the "boss".. For the most part, they all want that.. regardless of waht they say.. dont' talk about it verbally,, don't tell her "yes, I wanna lead this relationship so let me be the boss".. Just do it!! take the lead and they will follow.. hell, MOST people, men and women, will follow.. deep down, most people are looking for a leader.. so do what you need to acquire some leadership abilities.. or better yet, just start doing in.. start leading, and watch people follow
4) Don't let ANYONE talk down to you,, anywhere.. always stand up for your self..
5) Work out.. just start going to gym and working out.. This will help you become a little more agressive and the muscles don't hurt.. if you keep at it,, you will sometimes get girls just because they like your body.. hey,, maybe this is not what you want, but this is one of those "quality problems" .. oh, and for a shameless promo, make sure you get your workout supplements from me (
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6) Set goals and work towards accomplishing them.. I think someone else mentioned this.. experience and actually doing things.. so set goals each week, and do your best to accomplish them..
7) Approach at least 15 girls per week.. this is an EASY goal.. at this stage, you don't care how many numbers you get, or don't get,, your only goal is to approach 15 girls and TRY to get their number, whether you do or not, doesn't matter.. If you think this number is too large,, think again.. you can go to the mall and in 2 HOURS get this entire goal taken care of.. in one day, only 2 hours.. So up to you where yo uapproach them,, you can do it anywhere and everywhere.. NEVER hestitate because of a venue.. I've picked up girls anywhere you can think of, from job interviews, to gas statiions, to sporting events, airports, airplanes, grocery stores, I mean ANYWHERE.. always be ready..
8) Use the 3 second rule: When you see a decent looking chick, approach her within 3 SECONDS.. never break it and never hesitate.. just dont' even think about it.. go up and just say something.. yeah, sometimes her boyfriend will be there, but usually you will figure this out and nothing bad comes from it.. and sometimes you'll find out that she's just with some friends and one of them is a guy "friend" and you can still pick her up.. If you didn't use the 3 second rule and spent too much time thinking and analyzing, you would have talked your self out of this approach because you will probably use an excuse that she is with the dude... so trust me, just approach right away.. 3 seconds or less..
9) Make moves on girls! If you're alone with a girl.. KISS HER.. if she kisses you back, proceed making further moves on her.. and if you can hit it, then hit it, even if it's the first time you're hanging out.. you'll lose your chance with some girls because you dont' escalate things.. OHH while we're at it,, did you f*ck that 19 year old you were dating?? to be quite honest, maybe that's why she left.. if you didn't f*ck her.. so just be honest with us.. did you hit it??
10) Get back to the basics!! I gotta get going now.. I could keep writing forever, but the bottom line is, MAN UP, make moves, talk to AS MANY girls as you can, and you probably need to read some books also for some basics.. try with the dj bible here and the book of pook.. I'm pretty sure those are free.. not sure where you can find 'em but I know I've seen people post links and what not, so look around, or just search for it..
And NEVER, EVER cry because some chick left you!!!!!!! Thnk about it,, that's some p*ssy sh*t right there!! Man up!!!!