Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How do you avoid the 'clown' frame?

Colonizer

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Sometimes happens when you’re gaming a girl (wheter is alone, or with her friends). You start to tell jokes / funny things, in order to make her / the set relaxed.

But then you realice your target / the set starts to see you as the ‘clown’. You’re very amusing, so they want you to tell funny / entertaining things all the time.

How you avoid this frame?? Sometimes it has happened to me that, without realizing it, I have fallen in the clawn frame.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Embrace your sexuality. Increase sexual tension.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Colonizer said:
Sometimes happens when you’re gaming a girl (wheter is alone, or with her friends). You start to tell jokes / funny things, in order to make her / the set relaxed...
Don't sugarcoat it. The primary reason someone tells a ton of jokes when he's interested in a woman is to make himself feel relaxed, as if he doesn't take anything seriously he won't get nervous and screw things up (supposedly). Clowns seldom take things seriously either, the only difference is that clowns wear a ton of makeup. Your options are either to balance your humor with some serious sarging or go get a bunch of face paint and a huge bow tie.
 

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Never thought I'd say this, dial down the jokes then. Your goal isn't to entertain. It's to seduce and attract. Telling jokes is a tool that you should use to achieve that goal.

Think about Stephen Colbert, his goal is to make money and become popular. He accomplishes that goal by making people laugh. Not all of his jokes are all that funny, but he wouldn't be telling them if he didn't have the confidence to tell them. In fact if he didn't have any confidence, he probably would be on tv at all.

Entertaining a girl is key thing that guys with no self confidence do. It tells her "Hey you might not like me for me, so I am going to act like a clown."

I tell jokes because either I think they're funny or because well actually that's the main reason. I say what's on my mind, and I don't care what anyone thinks.


Point is don't tell jokes to entertain her, tell them because you think they are funny and you want to share a laugh with her.
 
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