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How do you avoid the 'clown' frame?

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Sometimes happens when you’re gaming a girl (wheter is alone, or with her friends). You start to tell jokes / funny things, in order to make her / the set relaxed.

But then you realice your target / the set starts to see you as the ‘clown’. You’re very amusing, so they want you to tell funny / entertaining things all the time.

How you avoid this frame?? Sometimes it has happened to me that, without realizing it, I have fallen in the clawn frame.
 

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Colonizer said:
Sometimes happens when you’re gaming a girl (wheter is alone, or with her friends). You start to tell jokes / funny things, in order to make her / the set relaxed...
Don't sugarcoat it. The primary reason someone tells a ton of jokes when he's interested in a woman is to make himself feel relaxed, as if he doesn't take anything seriously he won't get nervous and screw things up (supposedly). Clowns seldom take things seriously either, the only difference is that clowns wear a ton of makeup. Your options are either to balance your humor with some serious sarging or go get a bunch of face paint and a huge bow tie.
 

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Never thought I'd say this, dial down the jokes then. Your goal isn't to entertain. It's to seduce and attract. Telling jokes is a tool that you should use to achieve that goal.

Think about Stephen Colbert, his goal is to make money and become popular. He accomplishes that goal by making people laugh. Not all of his jokes are all that funny, but he wouldn't be telling them if he didn't have the confidence to tell them. In fact if he didn't have any confidence, he probably would be on tv at all.

Entertaining a girl is key thing that guys with no self confidence do. It tells her "Hey you might not like me for me, so I am going to act like a clown."

I tell jokes because either I think they're funny or because well actually that's the main reason. I say what's on my mind, and I don't care what anyone thinks.


Point is don't tell jokes to entertain her, tell them because you think they are funny and you want to share a laugh with her.
 
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