TheSlasher
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Title says it. Anecdotal references will be appreciated.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how do you avoid the afternoon slump?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Purefilth
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I have no clue what that is. Sorry.
TheSlasher
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Well, it's that feeling of sleepiness or drowsiness in the afternoon. Drone work is ok for this. But for stuff that have to be self-initiated like studying or writing a novel, it feels like hell.
Purefilth
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I can't say I notice it. I train when I get up and feel energized for the day.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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First thing in the morning?Purefilth said:
Purefilth
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Yup. Coffee, train, eat then start the day.
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In that order?Purefilth said:
DanZy
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I'm pretty sure you're just carb sensitive and eating too many at lunch. Happens to me if I don't watch what I'm eating
Purefilth
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yeah in that order.TheSlasher said:
danzy could be right though - too much simple carbs will cause you to feel a crash - eat complex carbs instead
i.e. swap out white bread for wholemeal, no sugary snacks aim for healthy and wholegrain - the carbs take longer to release an you'll feel energised for longer.
simple carbs and sugars give a short burst of energy and then a crash.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I really only crash when I don't get as much sleep as I should, and am doing mentally intense activities all morning (aka school).
So my answer would be to get enough sleep.
And Purefilth is right, on training days I don't get a slump.
So my answer would be to get enough sleep.
And Purefilth is right, on training days I don't get a slump.
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I doubt I could that here in the Philippines; it's our staple food here. Damn.JoeMarron said:
Furyguy
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Couldn't hurt to get more sleep at night, right?
TheSlasher
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Another problem here. I can't sleep until 1am.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
speed dawg
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Elaborate.Purefilth said:
I am attempting to train in the mornings myself, and there's nothing that seem nastier to me than drinking coffee BEFORE training. If I train first, I will admit I'm sluggish at first but afterwards I don't even need coffee.
Problem is, I like coffee. I'm almost resigned to training Monday through Friday, and having coffee on weekends.
speed dawg
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This is a big one for me.Social_Leper said:
I also try and drink a cup of green tea about 3 pm.
speed dawg
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Not sure that's the best advice. Grains aren't bad in and of themselves. They are actually very good to eat in the mornings, with a protein, after a training session.JoeMarron said:
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So this morning this is what I did: drank hot chocolate, ate 2 pieces of bread, and went for a 30 minute walk at about 6:30am. Will update you guys how I'll be later.
Modern forms of grains are sketchy at best. They came around the same time obesity rates began to skyrocket. OP I'd try sticking to white rice only as far as grains are concerned. There's plenty of other foods with more nutrition than you can get from grains without the shady reputation. I see no harm in eliminating grains for a month or so to see if the claims against them are true.speed dawg said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.