How do you ask them out?

[djthiago1]

I never thought about this before, but i usually get silly and creative when asking someone out, example: "Last night god told me in a dream that you really wanted to go out again, so i'll pick you up at day X at time Y for dinner.

I started thinking about this a few minutes ago and it just hit me that this kind of stuff might be kind of gay, but seriously now, is that dumb? Should i just be cold, dry and direct instead?

 

[Serenity]

Hahaha, how do you stay with them, that's the real question.

 

[Kotaix]

It's never stupid if it works.

Cold dry and direct doesn't really work on women. You want to project the mood you want them to feel.

 

[djthiago1]

It's never stupid if it works.

Cold dry and direct doesn't really work on women. You want to project the mood you want them to feel.

Makes sense, it always worked fine as i always get a giggle and a yes, i just thought that by cutting the funny out of my invites might raise my sucess rate a bit.

 

[Robert28]

Makes sense, it always worked fine as i always get a giggle and a yes, i just thought that by cutting the funny out of my invites might raise my sucess rate a bit.

For some reason women interpret funny as nervousness in the beginning, for instance when you’re in the process of asking them out.

 

[djthiago1]

For some reason women interpret funny as nervousness in the beginning, for instance when you’re in the process of asking them out.

So you just do it straight up?

 

[djthiago1]

Another example for you guys: the girl i'll ask out a few days from now for the second date said i should do stand up comedy because of how much i was making her laugh (her words), so i was going ask her by saying something like this: "i just set another comedy show for you with me, i'll pick you up at day X time Z.

I just feel smoother asking them out that way after disappearing for a week, but that's just my point of view, which is why i'm asking you more experienced gentleman. I'm just 25 after all.

 

[Robert28]

So you just do it straight up?

For me straight up has always worked the best. Whenever I’ve tried to be a joker they didn’t give me a straight answer or dodged the question, I guess because they didn’t think I was serious.

 

[djthiago1]

For me straight up has always worked the best. Whenever I’ve tried to be a joker they didn’t give me a straight answer or dodged the question, I guess because they didn’t think I was serious.

I've never ran into that problem, cause i specify the date, time and place at the end.

 

[Desdinova]

I never thought about this before, but i usually get silly and creative when asking someone out, example: "Last night god told me in a dream that you really wanted to go out again, so i'll pick you up at day X at time Y for dinner.

I like it!

Women enjoy it when you're fun and playful. I would randomly send text messages saying things like "quit daydreaming about me and get back to work." I've never had a bad experience with being playful with women over text.

 

[djthiago1]

I like it!

Women enjoy it when you're fun and playful. I would randomly send text messages saying things like "quit daydreaming about me and get back to work." I've never had a bad experience with being playful with women over text.

Me neither, i was just wondering if i could be coming off kind of wimpy, glad i wasn't doing something wrong.

 

[Desdinova]

Me neither, i was just wondering if i could be coming off kind of wimpy, glad i wasn't doing something wrong.

It's only wimpy if you apologize or beg.

 

[djthiago1]

Was that a text? And if so this is a great example of why most guys text game is so feminine. You said so yourself.

I never text date invites, i think the tonality and the way you say it matters a lot, i'd obviously be saying something like that with a slow, deep and sensual voice, in a sarcastic/humorous vibe.