"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you ask a girl if she has a STD or not?

CyrusTheGreat

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Let me first provide some background:
I'm currently trying to have s*x with as many chicks as possible while not catching any STDs. Also, I don't want to spend too much time on the screening process as I'm not planning on LTRs right now. I always use condoms. But since condoms don't necessarily prevent herpes, I wanna make sure I don't catch one from a chick.

Going back to the question, when you want to sleep with a chick how do you ask a chick whether she has any STDs or not in a DJ way? When do you actually do it, when you are bringing her home or while taking her clothes off or...?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Divorced w 3

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Let me first provide some background:
I'm currently trying to have s*x with as many chicks as possible while not catching any STDs. Also, I don't want to spend too much time on the screening process as I'm not planning on LTRs right now. I always use condoms. But since condoms don't necessarily prevent herpes, I wanna make sure I don't catch one from a chick.

Going back to the question, when you want to sleep with a chick how do you ask a chick whether she has any STDs or not in a DJ way? When do you actually do it, when you are bringing her home or while taking her clothes off or...?
If you’re concerned you wear a condom until you’re hooking up on the regular.

It’s also hypocritical not to offer that to your partners as someone on a mission to be promiscuous

what is with all these threads that assume that non exclusivity means that you can’t be considerate? This is bad news for this community
 

Stanley

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I know a guy with 100+ notch count and he told me he's used this several times before.
"I take care of my sexual health and I hope you do too" and then gauges the girls reaction. Kinda funny since this guy indiscriminately hooks up with girls and has zero standards lmao. He claims he's never caught anything though....

I would wear a condom regardless and screen appropriately. Asking a girl outright would probably offend her and kill the vibe entirely.
 

CyrusTheGreat

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If you’re concerned you wear a condom until you’re hooking up on the regular.
I'm already using condoms. I'm asking for how to ask the girls as well so that I avoid herpes.

It’s also hypocritical not to offer that to your partners as someone on a mission to be promiscuous
They can be or not be promiscuous. This is not a concern.

what is with all these threads that assume that non exclusivity means that you can’t be considerate? This is bad news for this community
I don't know how you interpreted that I'm gonna be inconsiderate of these women. I just said I am planning to non-exclusively have short-term sex with them. I am not planning on lying and manipulating. I'm simply asking for advice on how to ask girls if they have STDs or not.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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EyeBRollin

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You should be fine since you are wearing condoms. Just be careful with giving and receiving oral sex. No one straps up for those, but it is a high risk activity.

Good luck with asking a woman to be truthful about her status. Just assume all whvres you smash are dirty. It’s safer that way.
 

LucianoM

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Why do you care about STDs? The most common ones like gonorrhea and chlamydia are easily treatable with antibiotics. The herpes and HPV you already have it. And HIV transmission is highly unlikely in hetero couples.
 
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