SirFratserlot
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American women are demons, it is like playing with fire
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
True, but use it to your advantage. They have to cheat on someone with someone else, why not you?SirFratserlot said:American women are demons, it is like playing with fire
I'm starting to see this as more and more relevant these days.Bokanovsky said:The key is to see women as being, at best, of secondary importance in your life (i.e. second to your family, career, education, hobbies and other things that matter), not being outcome dependent, not trying hard to impress women and generally not putting a lot of effort into chasing women.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You shouldn't use women as a benchmark of your value. Think of all the great men whose names are remembered centuries if not millennia after their deaths (i.e. anyone from Julius Ceasar to Einstein). They are all remembered for their accomplishments, not for how many HB8+'s they've banged.Who Dares Win said:I tend to agree with Bokanovsky but honestly Im in doubt about seeing women as a secondary objective while at the same time using their quantity and quality as benchmark to my value.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
cognitive dissonance. we were taught woduplicitousen are good, and pure and honest.The_411 said:Better question is why you hate women for following their biology? They are wired differently than men. Women act duplicitous because they are wired to do so. All it takes is putting energy into those wires to cause her to cheat etc.
My point is not to be desired from a woman the benchmark, but the fact of being able to score women therefore the need to prove yourself that you can.Bokanovsky said:You shouldn't use women as a benchmark of your value. Think of all the great men whose names are remembered centuries if not millennia after their deaths (i.e. anyone from Julius Ceasar to Einstein). They are all remembered for their accomplishments, not for how many HB8+'s they've banged.
Using women as a benchmark of your value is AFC as fuq. It's like pitting a woman on a pedestal...except you are putting the entire female sex on a pedestal. Don't be that guy.
I know what you're saying. If you are a high value guy, women should be interested in you. If you build your life, women should come along with it.Who Dares Win said:Its not the women or the car to make your value, they are just a demostration of it, thats what I meant.