How do we handle compliments?

[Medina]

I've never been quite sure how to handle compliments when or if they arrive (it's rare)

For example yesterday I was tagged in a video on FB singing and playing guitar on stage

This peaked attention at work and compliments from women in particular came knocking

My "natural" reaction to situations like this is to say something like "I bet you covered your ears!"

And to generally DOWNPLAY the compliment. Same goes for other praises too, like clothes etc

Good way to go? Any thoughts on this?

 

[SoSuave666]

Always remain humble and let others brag for you.

 

[Sunnypoo]

Being humble about it, I always just say thank you.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I prefer a "Thanks very much" and then a followup question, depending on the nature of the compliment, like, "What in particular did you like the most?" if it's about a performance, for example.

Never ever play down a compliment or be self-effacing. Accept it with confidence.

 

[Trump]

You probably cant say anything magical that will make them take off their clothes and have sex with you right there in the office.

Say “thanks” and move on.

 

[Spaz]

I’m c0cky as hell about it. All done with a big grin, though.

I’ll follow up a lot of compliments with, “I know, right?!” or, “Yeah, I get that all of the time”.

You’re right. I am pretty awesome. Etc.

So long as they know I’m just joking, works for me 90+% of the time.

This works extremely well with a sly smile.

Confidence will see it through.

 

[Spaz]

Just “thank you” is nice, but it’s fvcking boring. I save that for grandma when she tells me I’m handsome.

This should be in every man's psyche.

I could straight up size a man up when he's humble (and that's not good) but will need time to do the same for a c0cky man - that is the advantages of being c0cky and it's good.

 

[Trump]

I’m c0cky as hell about it. All done with a big grin, though.

I’ll follow up a lot of compliments with, “I know, right?!” or, “Yeah, I get that all of the time”.

You’re right. I am pretty awesome. Etc.

So long as they know I’m just joking, works for me 90+% of the time.

Bro I know you (and Spaz) get laid like a rockstar, but to me that’s not ****y, that’s conceited and turns people off.

Girl: “Hey, you were pretty good last night.”
Guy: “I know I was, right?”

Girl: “Hey, you were pretty good last night.”
Guy: “Thanks, let’s go grab and coffee and discuss more.”

Maybe it’s the *way* you say it?

 

[sosousage]

you should go all shy blushy and gigglin

 

[fanatic22]

Bro I know you (and Spaz) get laid like a rockstar, but to me that’s not ****y, that’s conceited and turns people off.

Girl: “Hey, you were pretty good last night.”
Guy: “I know I was, right?”

Girl: “Hey, you were pretty good last night.”
Guy: “Thanks, let’s go grab and coffee and discuss more.”

Maybe it’s the *way* you say it?

You aren’t actually being c0cky, you’re being playful.

Girl: “Hey you were pretty good last night.”
Guy: “Pretty good? You mean I blew you away.” *smile*

It’s pretty much just the same hyperbolic sh1t talking you do with your friends, except with a flirty spin.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Not being able to take a compliment makes you look insecure, not confident, and low-value. Always accept compliments confidently.

Many people believe that being humble means downplaying or deflecting compliments but that is not the case. Being humble is not going around the office proactively showing everyone the picture of you on stage. But if someone sees it on their own and compliments you, then you absolutely should accept it. I like Amante's strategy, but that isn't quite my personality so it might come off poorly if I did it. I just smile and say, "Thanks! I appreciate that."

 

[Atom Smasher]

In cases like compliments, each man's personality will dictate what works for him.

I think the main takeaway though is that we should always accept compliments confidently, with never even a hint of embarrassment.

 

[Chalet]

Just say thank you then move on any questions regarding the compliment is Approval seeking behavior

 

[Atom Smasher]

For a man of wisdom, a compliment can be steered to her talking herself into being wildly attracted to you. It's all what you say after the compliment, or rather, what you get her to say.

 

[Medina]

Girl - I saw a video of you playing on fb and wow!
Me - Did you cover your ears?
Girl - No you are so talented!
Me - Thanks a lot

That's how it went with the best girl of interest and I think I did OK. A good mix.

It's not my personality to be c0cky and I can see it back-firing if not careful

Edit - Although on reflection I could have spiced things up by saying "Come round mine I'll teach you a chord or two" or "Why don't I give you a private showing" lololol nah well

 

[shouldbefun]

My advice:

INVITE dead ends, awkward pauses, lengthy silences.

How often should you do them though?

 

[Roober]

Just say whatever fits your style and the occasion. I'll often use sarcasm similar to what @Amante Silvestre described, but then sometimes just a simple thanks.

At work, I tend to be more humble. With women or friends, I tend to be more sarcastic or some ridiculous response.

I would advise against speaking negatively to a compliment (unless its blatant sarcasm), as it reeks of insecurity. You are better off not responding at all.

 

[flowtheory]

Anytime someone gives a compliment;
1. own it completely and escalate further
2. say thanks
3. hold eye contact, switch the emphasis to then and ask them something to engage them.

Really depends on the context of the situation and with who it is. There isn’t a one encompassing answer. Thank you is the safest

 

[Mazer]

Agree and Amplify in a cawky way. I have used “Do you want my autograph now or later” line a few times with success.

 

[Murk]

A simple thanks