Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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how do u stay in the game after weight gain?

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I mean...I look avg. But I know shirtless I'm not toned at all unless I flex. I need to lose 10 lbs of fat.
I'm going out but sometimes I hold back cuz I'm not toned.
Any mental advice. I'm working out so I guess just keep it up.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I mean...I look avg. But I know shirtless I'm not toned at all unless I flex. I need to lose 10 lbs of fat.
I'm going out but sometimes I hold back cuz I'm not toned.
Any mental advice. I'm working out so I guess just keep it up.
Your core confidence seems to be weak.

I mean how many women are out there and they're not in the best shape of their lives.

You cannot put everything into the way you look. You should always maximize your looks but at the end of the day if your inner core mentality is missing, what are you?

If this is your issue......I think you should purposefully game in this condition to override your complex.

Last summer I did my back in and I couldn't exercise. I remember one night where I was limping and I was just like "fvck it I'm going out" and I scored! with a limp! initially I was like.....no way man....then I was thinking.....fvck this I'm just dying to go out and have a laugh........I scored just as a consequence......

Game when you feel weak and you'll overcome it.

Everything is core confidence
 

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In 2008 I was at my physical prime. I put on 30lbs or so between 2008-2012 when I was with one of my crazies and it all went to my gut. I was concerned at first when we split. But I am happy to say that I have had no shortage of poon sense then, and I would have to say my best. I was never one of those guys who railed 2-3 new babes a week even in my best days. Sense 2012 I have railed 5 new chicks and then another 2 who were old FWBs from before 2008 when I was thinner. Would I like to loose the weight? Yes of course. But as far as game has gone, you answer your question, my answer is "not an issue".
 

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True.
I feel lighter just thinking about it not mattering.
Realistically though, full confidence and fat belly would yield less hits.
 

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Any reason you can't get in the gym and lose weight?

Yeah you can still game women being fat, weak and unfit

Doesn't mean you should though.

Get in the gym
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The real issue is not been addressed......

What the fvck is wrong with your inner game that you need to rely
so fvcking much on your fvcking body.......

....are you getting that part yet???

If I gave you an around the world ticket to travel the world all expenses paid
but there was one catch......you had to game one girl every second day.....

could you do it????
 

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The real issue is not been addressed......

What the fvck is wrong with your inner game that you need to rely
so fvcking much on your fvcking body.......

....are you getting that part yet???

If I gave you an around the world ticket to travel the world all expenses paid
but there was one catch......you had to game one girl every second day.....

could you do it????
Well my guess is something happened that spawned the weight gain.

When you are centered and framed you tend to respect your body.

Blowing out is a sign you lost that, at least imo
 

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Well my guess is something happened that spawned the weight gain.

When you are centered and framed you tend to respect your body.

Blowing out is a sign you lost that, at least imo
Yeah, you're probably right. But how does that help fatso??

I'm nearly forty and probably in better shape than most of you
 

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I am hitting the weights and cardio. I fell off for 3 weeks cuz i got injured at work. I'm probably being too harsh on myself. I'm not obese, I am strong, just got one flat tire that I can hide under clothes, im not beach body, you see.
If I had a ticket to game around the globe 24/7 I would go. No kidding. I get that once one makes up his mind that his looks don't matter, then its not an issue for said person to go balls out cuz its just life and ur making the best of a less than optimal situation. If you ever had a decent body and you let yourself go you would understand that sex could be better, going to the pool is better, life in general is better. And you would want ur mate to enjoy that feeling as well.
Similar to how you want ur partner to be in great mental health and so should you. In finances as well and other aspects of life.

In the mean time, I'm going through the transition of knowing I was better physically and its like a hiccup in my game. I know it will pass, but like I said, how do you guys continue being DJs with your losses?
One way I heard was that the guy just makes himself believe it's not an issue to him so fvck it. By the law of state transference it won't be an issue to the girl.

Any other coping mechanisms I can use before I get my body where it was and then be a real mofo on the outside as well ?
 

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You're a loser son. If you haven't got the game in your head.............your a loser
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dude...we all have our ups and downs.
You are saying im a loser cuz I gained weight?
You're a loser cuz you're calling dudes losers on a self help forum
 

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Stop being accepting of being out of shape and fat?

No right to complain if you aren't trying to maximize your own value to others.
 

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Dude...we all have our ups and downs.
You are saying im a loser cuz I gained weight?
You're a loser cuz you're calling dudes losers on a self help forum
Just trying to motivate you ;)

Seeing by your reaction if you still have fire in the belly

Sometimes we need to hit rock bottom before we can rise again...

Maybe I'm watching too many Kitchen Nightmares....
 

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Look at this fat fvcker and you will realize that the game is mostly mindset....


If you listen to his seminar and hear the stories.......he's not full of ****e...........he actually just not give a
fsck and goes for what he wants.....

he says he has two simple "rules"

1. I am the most important person in the relationship
2. I don't care what she thinks

David X

by the way, an important thing he says is......."we are going to listen to your problems....but often you'll find that
what you think is the problem is often not the problem"
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bros...its not even about motivating me or helping me out.
I burned 3000 calories today ....for fun...got numbers, got free **** from life.
I met people who gave me free stuff. Chicks like me with my weight gain. I'm not doubting that. I'm not a slob. I just know that life kicks more azz when I'm even more fit.

What I am asking is how do you guys cope with still trying to maintain your DJ status when you know you fell off... Being body wise, money wise, etc...
How do you keep it when you know youre lacking?
Again, telling itself ur DA shyt works...but the mirror disagrees. Cuz let's face it. Some girl will say she doesn't care about the extra weight until your better self shows up and you really own the game.
 

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its all in your head.

you can choose to listen to your negative thoughts about yourself, or your positive thoughts about yourself. either way, you're right. it's your reality, and whatever you think is your perception and will be reinforced into your brain.

if you think you're a scumbag, then you're a scumbag. if you think you're a stud, then you're a stud. your mind is everything. who cares about what the outside world thinks. are you willing to let someone else besides yourself define YOU; the very essence of yourself?
 

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Bros...its not even about motivating me or helping me out.
I burned 3000 calories today ....for fun...got numbers, got free **** from life.
I met people who gave me free stuff. Chicks like me with my weight gain. I'm not doubting that. I'm not a slob. I just know that life kicks more azz when I'm even more fit.

What I am asking is how do you guys cope with still trying to maintain your DJ status when you know you fell off... Being body wise, money wise, etc...
How do you keep it when you know youre lacking?
Again, telling itself ur DA shyt works...but the mirror disagrees. Cuz let's face it. Some girl will say she doesn't care about the extra weight until your better self shows up and you really own the game.
You're not very bright, mate.

Life is hard enough being stupid, try not to be a fatso at the same time.
 

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You're getting in your own way. Stop worrying about where you were and where you are now and start taking steps to change. Don't make excuses, don't whine about the fact you're in a slump. Life is in a constant state of change. You have to ride the highs and the lows with the same mindset. It's all transient, it doesn't matter.

So write a list of what you want to change and start doing it right now. Google some prison workouts and start doing some cardio/pushups RIGHT NOW. Put a note on your monitor saying you're going to do this every day for twenty minutes, you're going to do work on something for your future success etc.

Just start doing something. Sitting and thinking about how life isn't as great now as it was is a pointless waste of time. Make it great again.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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