"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJinTraining06

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Do any of u guys just get livid when girls give u a bs story, and they inisist on it and act all self righteous, when u know for a fact they're full of sh*t?

I can't figure out why i get soo mad at them. I end up getting so pissed at them and having fights and then we stop speaking. I can't let go and leave on good terms with a girl. I always gotta insist they admit they lied and crap. Why do i do this? Is it cuz im upset bout the girl not likin me, or is it somethin else. I wish i didn get pissed and just didnt care less about it, so that id have some girls that may eventually come back to me or at least myspace friends who were leaving me comments lol to make me look like i had alot of female interest. but i always just get mad and make it so final. I even tried seeing 3 girls recently, was spinning 3 plates at once and i still got mad at 1 of them who basically rejected me. I dunno i think ive become bitter. Maybe that's it I take past frustrations out on them. Any of u have this problem?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJinTraining06 said:
... I dunno i think ive become bitter. Maybe that's it I take past frustrations out on them. Any of u have this problem?
You've been here a while, you already know the answer.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
Do any of u guys just get livid when girls give u a bs story, and they inisist on it and act all self righteous, when u know for a fact they're full of sh*t?
If you want to have anything to do with women, get used to it. They're all full of BS...they just hide it well. Don't get pissed...it's just a skirt.
 

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Freud would wonder whether you have issues with your mother's honesty/behaviour.

People lie, always have done, always will. Don't allow their negative waves to harsh your mellow, man.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
Do any of u guys just get livid when girls give u a bs story, and they inisist on it and act all self righteous, when u know for a fact they're full of sh*t?
Of course. My recent success with maintaining my current HB8.5 is being refined to a formula:

You want to combine 3 key things:

1) Humor (to start with when you meet her)
2) Absence (never contact her every day)
3) Passion (make sure the time you are together is dream-like in her memories - plan every detail).

This is the HAP program. If you don't have the HAP program, you are HAPless! (I just wrote that one!)

Any time you sense BS - it's time for Absence. Then, when you return to her after 3-6 days, use Humor, then return to Passion. Mix and match all 3 in an unpredictable pattern and you'll have them.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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