"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do u not get pissed?

DJinTraining06

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Do any of u guys just get livid when girls give u a bs story, and they inisist on it and act all self righteous, when u know for a fact they're full of sh*t?

I can't figure out why i get soo mad at them. I end up getting so pissed at them and having fights and then we stop speaking. I can't let go and leave on good terms with a girl. I always gotta insist they admit they lied and crap. Why do i do this? Is it cuz im upset bout the girl not likin me, or is it somethin else. I wish i didn get pissed and just didnt care less about it, so that id have some girls that may eventually come back to me or at least myspace friends who were leaving me comments lol to make me look like i had alot of female interest. but i always just get mad and make it so final. I even tried seeing 3 girls recently, was spinning 3 plates at once and i still got mad at 1 of them who basically rejected me. I dunno i think ive become bitter. Maybe that's it I take past frustrations out on them. Any of u have this problem?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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DJinTraining06 said:
... I dunno i think ive become bitter. Maybe that's it I take past frustrations out on them. Any of u have this problem?
You've been here a while, you already know the answer.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
Do any of u guys just get livid when girls give u a bs story, and they inisist on it and act all self righteous, when u know for a fact they're full of sh*t?
If you want to have anything to do with women, get used to it. They're all full of BS...they just hide it well. Don't get pissed...it's just a skirt.
 

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Freud would wonder whether you have issues with your mother's honesty/behaviour.

People lie, always have done, always will. Don't allow their negative waves to harsh your mellow, man.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
Do any of u guys just get livid when girls give u a bs story, and they inisist on it and act all self righteous, when u know for a fact they're full of sh*t?
Of course. My recent success with maintaining my current HB8.5 is being refined to a formula:

You want to combine 3 key things:

1) Humor (to start with when you meet her)
2) Absence (never contact her every day)
3) Passion (make sure the time you are together is dream-like in her memories - plan every detail).

This is the HAP program. If you don't have the HAP program, you are HAPless! (I just wrote that one!)

Any time you sense BS - it's time for Absence. Then, when you return to her after 3-6 days, use Humor, then return to Passion. Mix and match all 3 in an unpredictable pattern and you'll have them.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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