"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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how do u make a girl comfortable around you?

drift king

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if a girl is uncomfortable around you except when she's had 1 drink (then she's all for u holding her, having her arms around her) how do i make her feel this way when sober?

she gets nervous around me, maybe feels im going to try something.. are some girls just like this? as in uncomfortable with guys touching them when they're sober?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It depends if your nervous then she becomes nervous. So make your self comfortable and at home around her and she will get that energy from you and relax also.
 

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1337 said:
It depends if your nervous then she becomes nervous. So make your self comfortable and at home around her and she will get that energy from you and relax also.
Spot-on.

Okay, i was planning to start a new, revised thread on Kino for this, but guess i'll write it all here.

It depends on what your style is. Don't work your game on her in the club if you actually know her and she's not a one night thing. Ask her out during the day.

Talk to her, ask her questions, dig deep. Get her to pour herself out to you if you can. Ask her if she's into animals, then what kind of animals, and why that animal. Of course, don't be a robot.

If you feel that you are a highly sexual and alpha person while being around her, talking to her, don't kino. I'd put it this way, if you can kino with your eyes and speech, you won't need kino at all, unless you have took a wrong step and made her feel that you're not attracted to her. Do light kino instead, periodically.

Well, you ask, how would i know if i need to kino or not? At the start of the date, after some quality interaction (this is important), if you guys happen to be walking through a crowd, subtly put your hand on her shoulder and guide her along. Be careful not to overdo it, be cool, just for a short while. 8 out of 10 times, before you even know it, this is like a move where you're giving her permission to kino you. If she's attracted to you, she will start touching you at every opportunity.

Do light-kino, instead of the usual drills. Use kino as more of a test to find out if she's genuinely interested. It's not for building rapport and comfort. You are already doing that with your light-hearted conversations. Do kino from time to time, until you reach the stage where she seems totally comfortable, loving it, and wants more of it. Wait, don't get over-excited, that's when you cut it off for a while. Then go again. :yes:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon said:
Smile and laugh and dont touch alot. move slow and patient. compliment her hair once.
should i be not surprised that she's uncomfortable cos i touch way too much?

i dont do very well at this kino thing.. i escalate way too fast. i may be better off sitting back and not touching her at all, she'll know somethings wrong when every time i'm with her i keep tryna touch her.
 

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Kino should come naturally. When enough rapport/connection/attraction is built and the girl is into you and you and her are feeling good, there's no question about it. If you feel hesitant or awkward about kinoing her don't do it as the girl will feel it as forced. It's your subconscious letting you know that you haven't attracted her yet, and that something isn't right.
 
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