Ok just to clear the air this isnt some "pls i just broke up, help me get my girl back post."
I'd like to learn from this hell of a relationship i've been through because i rly dont have any other long term ones to compare it too. we were together on n off for 2 years.
Now a big thing is the chick in question was bi-polar so that right off the bat tells you alot. She also of course had a ****load of guys "friends" that mostly big fags, but some of them had this rep of bein cool(idk how, but we were from very diff towns rich/poor). Her only excuse havin so many dudes around is she was raised by her oldest brother and in alotta ways shes very tomboy like; rode bmx, likes sports, blah blah. i tried very hard to not let it bother me that that she had more guy friends than i did but it would slip out sometimes and i'd berate her verbally about it.
So onto my point. I'm guessin if ur gunna be with a chick like this(never had any plans on marrying her but we did have ALOT of fun times together and i wasnt ready just yet to move on[wouldve liked to have a chick on the side at least]) u just gotta have rock solid inner game goin on, am i right?
Cuz everything between us was cool until i'd start to act "jealous", even if my reason was justified. Like if i left the room n came back to find her laughing n some male friend like had his arm around her or touched her during the joke(kino type ish) or was just way too close to her in general; sum shyt like that, hopefully u know what i mean like not gropin her but just too close ya kno. I never knew how to react to that, like do i punch dude in the face? do i flirt hard with the nearest decent lookin chick(which was pretty effective becuz of course she could be crazy jealous, i think because she would think the worst n compare it to what she did when i wasnt around)? or, the basis of all our fights, do i confront her and be like wtf u hoe, dont be touchin other dudes?? and in turn i look like a jealous psycho n she wins.
Alittle background on me these last 2 yrs: To be fully honest, my life is kinda sh!tty atm. I'm livin paycheck to paycheck, got a sh!ty ass car, and dont rly have anything goin on(like fun sh!t to do or cool plans/vacations, or a good job w. a future). But i do got an apt tho which is cool but i'm too broke to rly do anything, esp. the last cpl months. Only thing, and sometimes more of a curse then a blessing, im RLY good at reading ppl. Like what theyre intentions are, if they lie, sh!t like that but its been useless lately. Also i dont rly have many real friends, and the ones i do have we havent been doin any cool sh!t lately(when i first started chillin w. her things were very diff, i had a decent amt of sh!t goin on. BUT i also had no car, no license, a place, or a JOB!! lol and she was way more into me than, ha figures.)
I just feel like me n my life are very boring right now and i have no idea what to do about it. Plus she always had WAY more friends then me and it seemed like they always had some cool **** goin on. And towards the end of my relationship w this chick when we hung out, we only chilled by ourselfs, not with my friends or hers(cuz mine sucked[also i couldnt help but feel she was like flirting w/ some of them] and hers either hated on me or i just fluckin hated them myself).
Like to all the real don juans out there, how do u keep your cool around a whole bunch of dude friends of a girl when theyre laughin, makin jokes, seeming cool and i'm there like, ALL this kids are fags and would most def never survive where n how i grew up.
I just feel like i failed test after test with this chick(even tho she is crazy). And i'd kno i was doin it i just couldnt help it. Like to be RLY honest we hung out like EVERY damn day for the first 2 months or so. Than she started askin me to be her bf and i just kept puttin it off, puttin it off till i was finally like ok lets do it. And at that moment i could just feel air rushing out of our relationship like my mystery was gone and she found out i was fakin all of this ****.
Are all realtionships like this? Is there always this constant battle for the upper hand? I'm guessin in normal relationships there isnt, but it is tru that if u can keep a bi-polar chick in line then u could keep any chick in line?(andd i dont mean like beating her when i say keep in line, i mean keeping her all about u and on ur d!ck only)
I mean one thing i couldnt compete w/ is that she wanted to go out n do something almost every night of the week and i lost count of how many nights i went out even tho i had no interest in doin so, and had work at freakin 6am. i guess i f'ed up there a bit, but i didnt want her chillin w those fags w/o me around cuz they all talked sh!t about me and would flirt w/ her when i wasnt around(even tho MOST of them had no chance in hell, it still made me blackout angry)
Idk i just feel like i'm faking ALL of this. confidence, being happy, being tuff, cool, whatever. i feel like its all this big act and theres like a ticker goin off when i meet a chick that starts counting down till she finds this out, that i'm fakin it all, and that i'm just an almost 30 yr old that doesnt have any positive **** goin on, no college, no history, ****ty job(i mean it pays good but i hate it) and just general loserishness goin on.
And with this chick fellas help me out cuz i still have some of her **** and gotta get it back to her at sum point. How in the hell do i proceed from here? just drop her **** off w/o seein her? have her friend drop my stuff off? never call or contact her again? and just a fyi its too soon and i wont be able to handle seein her w/ another dude. Altho a friend did tell me he saw a pic of her on facebook w/ another dude so i'm tryin to not let that bother me.
So just analyze that pls vets around here and see what u can come up with pls!
A main question of mine is how do u deal with dudes trying to game ur chick? that a big q of mine but also how to proceed now that its ovr. and other sh!t too i cant remember cuz i ended up typing wayy too much. Thanks so much if u read this whole sh!t.
I'd like to learn from this hell of a relationship i've been through because i rly dont have any other long term ones to compare it too. we were together on n off for 2 years.
Now a big thing is the chick in question was bi-polar so that right off the bat tells you alot. She also of course had a ****load of guys "friends" that mostly big fags, but some of them had this rep of bein cool(idk how, but we were from very diff towns rich/poor). Her only excuse havin so many dudes around is she was raised by her oldest brother and in alotta ways shes very tomboy like; rode bmx, likes sports, blah blah. i tried very hard to not let it bother me that that she had more guy friends than i did but it would slip out sometimes and i'd berate her verbally about it.
So onto my point. I'm guessin if ur gunna be with a chick like this(never had any plans on marrying her but we did have ALOT of fun times together and i wasnt ready just yet to move on[wouldve liked to have a chick on the side at least]) u just gotta have rock solid inner game goin on, am i right?
Cuz everything between us was cool until i'd start to act "jealous", even if my reason was justified. Like if i left the room n came back to find her laughing n some male friend like had his arm around her or touched her during the joke(kino type ish) or was just way too close to her in general; sum shyt like that, hopefully u know what i mean like not gropin her but just too close ya kno. I never knew how to react to that, like do i punch dude in the face? do i flirt hard with the nearest decent lookin chick(which was pretty effective becuz of course she could be crazy jealous, i think because she would think the worst n compare it to what she did when i wasnt around)? or, the basis of all our fights, do i confront her and be like wtf u hoe, dont be touchin other dudes?? and in turn i look like a jealous psycho n she wins.
Alittle background on me these last 2 yrs: To be fully honest, my life is kinda sh!tty atm. I'm livin paycheck to paycheck, got a sh!ty ass car, and dont rly have anything goin on(like fun sh!t to do or cool plans/vacations, or a good job w. a future). But i do got an apt tho which is cool but i'm too broke to rly do anything, esp. the last cpl months. Only thing, and sometimes more of a curse then a blessing, im RLY good at reading ppl. Like what theyre intentions are, if they lie, sh!t like that but its been useless lately. Also i dont rly have many real friends, and the ones i do have we havent been doin any cool sh!t lately(when i first started chillin w. her things were very diff, i had a decent amt of sh!t goin on. BUT i also had no car, no license, a place, or a JOB!! lol and she was way more into me than, ha figures.)
I just feel like me n my life are very boring right now and i have no idea what to do about it. Plus she always had WAY more friends then me and it seemed like they always had some cool **** goin on. And towards the end of my relationship w this chick when we hung out, we only chilled by ourselfs, not with my friends or hers(cuz mine sucked[also i couldnt help but feel she was like flirting w/ some of them] and hers either hated on me or i just fluckin hated them myself).
Like to all the real don juans out there, how do u keep your cool around a whole bunch of dude friends of a girl when theyre laughin, makin jokes, seeming cool and i'm there like, ALL this kids are fags and would most def never survive where n how i grew up.
I just feel like i failed test after test with this chick(even tho she is crazy). And i'd kno i was doin it i just couldnt help it. Like to be RLY honest we hung out like EVERY damn day for the first 2 months or so. Than she started askin me to be her bf and i just kept puttin it off, puttin it off till i was finally like ok lets do it. And at that moment i could just feel air rushing out of our relationship like my mystery was gone and she found out i was fakin all of this ****.
Are all realtionships like this? Is there always this constant battle for the upper hand? I'm guessin in normal relationships there isnt, but it is tru that if u can keep a bi-polar chick in line then u could keep any chick in line?(andd i dont mean like beating her when i say keep in line, i mean keeping her all about u and on ur d!ck only)
I mean one thing i couldnt compete w/ is that she wanted to go out n do something almost every night of the week and i lost count of how many nights i went out even tho i had no interest in doin so, and had work at freakin 6am. i guess i f'ed up there a bit, but i didnt want her chillin w those fags w/o me around cuz they all talked sh!t about me and would flirt w/ her when i wasnt around(even tho MOST of them had no chance in hell, it still made me blackout angry)
Idk i just feel like i'm faking ALL of this. confidence, being happy, being tuff, cool, whatever. i feel like its all this big act and theres like a ticker goin off when i meet a chick that starts counting down till she finds this out, that i'm fakin it all, and that i'm just an almost 30 yr old that doesnt have any positive **** goin on, no college, no history, ****ty job(i mean it pays good but i hate it) and just general loserishness goin on.
And with this chick fellas help me out cuz i still have some of her **** and gotta get it back to her at sum point. How in the hell do i proceed from here? just drop her **** off w/o seein her? have her friend drop my stuff off? never call or contact her again? and just a fyi its too soon and i wont be able to handle seein her w/ another dude. Altho a friend did tell me he saw a pic of her on facebook w/ another dude so i'm tryin to not let that bother me.
So just analyze that pls vets around here and see what u can come up with pls!
A main question of mine is how do u deal with dudes trying to game ur chick? that a big q of mine but also how to proceed now that its ovr. and other sh!t too i cant remember cuz i ended up typing wayy too much. Thanks so much if u read this whole sh!t.