"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How do u guys deal with rejection and ex girl friends?
- Thread starter e-lie
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Thinking about changing up my routine.
These things have happened to me while going through transitionary periods where I was under a lot of stress from work or something, which made dealing with rejection that much more difficult.
Lately I have been focussing on making myself a better man and as stable as I can be with work, my living arrangements, and finances, etc. KNowing that when push comes to shove that the statistics show people will fold on you has taught me alot. I'm not letting it make me become jaded like some people. Instead I'm using it to empower myself while restoring my faith that I will eventually meet someone I can reproduce with who is better for me than the flakes I have been with.
Anyway, I've noticed I always seem to find better ones after 4-5 months when I start eating normally and looking normal again. I always come to the conclusion that it is their loss, even if I have to restructure my life and who I am in order to make that a reality.
At the most sometimes have to break complete contact with the person and avoid seeing them anyway possible, but that's only happened once. I'm on pretty good terms with all but one of my exes.
In the mean time, I call one of the plates that I had already been spinning (important lesson here guys), and get some head to ease the pain.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.