"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do people settle?

reorex

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I am curious how do people date someone they are meh about and end up sticking with it? Some of them even seem genuinely happy.

My girlfriend would be so much easier if I could do that. I am looking for some pointers, especially from women.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Who Dares Win

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Once you realize that while hors are abundant quality women are rare diamonds you will be more willing to settle.
Totally agree, plus at some point once we reach a certain amount of sexual partners we're no longer ego motivated to hunt.
 

Alvafe

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Who Dares Win said:
Totally agree, plus at some point once we reach a certain amount of sexual partners we're no longer ego motivated to hunt.
and you also have people, who thinks can't do better (it fun to tell a woman that)
 

PlayHer Man

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People settle because "being with someone" (anyone) is more important to them than their dignity. Simple as that. Its all about priorities and everyone's are different.

I'll lower my standards temporarily to satisfy a sexual urge.. but I would never commit to someone low quality just to "not be alone". Such behavior makes you a faggot.

I'd rather be alone than in bad company. But that's just me.
 
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