Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How do people manage life?

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I am a student, I have two part time jobs, plus working out. It fills up all my day. I know there are plenty of people out there with lifes similar or the same in that respect. Today: Go out of house 7 AM. School 8-15. 16-20:30, job. After I get home: Homework, girl friend, cleaning up, showering, maybe grab some food if I have the time.

But how do people ****ing manage? People demand so much. Teachers, fellow students, girl friends, your boss, instructors, they all demand you to perform the outmost. Sometimes so much that your roles in school and job gets pushed against each other so you have to pick sides and one of the sides will blame you and call you a piece of **** or a loser. I want to punch them all in the face and tell them to shut the **** up.

How do people manage? I haven't been able to eat a solid meal the whole day and it's midnight now. I'm going ****ing nuts.

I actually woke up today and honestly felt like if I died that moment, it would be a relief. I felt death was something positive to come. And I am not even depressed. Seriously. Life is that strenious.

Before I go to bed now I will eat a can of fish and a beef. Vegetables, rice? I don't have time for anything more, I should already be in bed. Here I am, with fish sauce dripping onto my keyboard. I am an animal in the truest sense, in what is supposed to be a civilized and technological society.

Will I have time to even brush my teeth? I doubt it.

Any useful advise on how to cope with this? I am young, I am sure there are people who have learned a few tricks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MOZIS

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Either drop one thing? or manage already. There are millions of people that have been in ur spot before, and millions after you. There are millions if nit biliions who have it harder.
 

underoath777

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Just don't give a fvck. I don't let anything stress me out. I just don't care.

Look at it this way.

- Oh ****, I got a D on my paper. Fvck. Well I'm not hurt, so fvck it.
- My boss is a douche. Well I need to find a new job, or just not care about his opinion of me. Fvck it.
- I don't have time to eat. Well I'll buy snack bars or make protein shakes. Fvck it.



If anyone calls you a loser, or a piece of sh!t, you'll be too busy not giving a fvck to hear them.


I just got a call from a credit card company about paying a bill. Sorry but i'm tapped out, my credit is worse than it should be, and my payment arrangement might be in jeopardy. I just don't have the money to pay it.

I'm waiting on the status for instate tuition at a new college...if I don't get it, I can't go because it'll be too much money.

I just had to end **** with this girl who basically used me to validate herself.

Guess what? Right now, I'm listening to music, relaxing, having fun. Why?

Because I know my life isn't in jeopardy, so fvck it.
 

Exhumed

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That's terrible advice, maybe he shouldn't feel completely stressed and obligated to do absolutely everything to the fullest, but last semester I just said "f*ck it" and it worked out terribly. How can one be confident with no job, bad grades, bad credit, no girls, etc.? Yeah you can relax now and then but if it's a busy time in your life, oh well, you just have to try your best to stay on top of things and not freak out if something falls through.

Do what everyone else does, get through your sh*tty week and then party your ass off on the weekends.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SmoothTalker

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This stage of people's lives, where you are in school and working at the same time, is brutal.

People complain about how they get tired at work, but **** them at least if you're working full time, you go home and you're free. With school you have to do homework, and in your case, work on top of that.

So yeah, I don't actually think most people deal with this much, it's tough. How much schooling do you have left? Any chance you could get by with just the one job?

The most important skill to learn though, aside from time management, is how to say no. As you say people always expect a lot from you, and it's physically impossible to give everyone everything they want. Figure out who and what you care enough about to spend time on, and learn to say no to everyone and everything else.
 

underoath777

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Exhumed said:
That's terrible advice, maybe he shouldn't feel completely stressed and obligated to do absolutely everything to the fullest, but last semester I just said "f*ck it" and it worked out terribly. How can one be confident with no job, bad grades, bad credit, no girls, etc.? Yeah you can relax now and then but if it's a busy time in your life, oh well, you just have to try your best to stay on top of things and not freak out if something falls through.

Do what everyone else does, get through your sh*tty week and then party your ass off on the weekends.

Man, I'm not advocating complete apathy, I'm talking about saying "fvck it" in situations he has no control over.

For example, I had to fill out a huuuuuge form and get all kinds of paperwork in to file for instate tuition. I did what I had to do. But if they deny it for some bull**** reason, then I have to move on. Stressing about it won't change anything.

That doesn't mean don't care about your grades, etc.

He even said he had a girl, and two jobs, so obviously he's not that bad off.
 

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im not a big 50 cent fan or anything but i think he was the one that said "dyin' is easy cuz livin' is hard." nobody ever said life would be easy. however, on a positive look, it makes it even better when you do well after all the struggles life always seems to throw at you. i would just tell you to do your best, keep it up and to not let things get to you in any way. stress kills so just do the best you can. cheers !
 

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You have no time, yet you have been able to bang out over 100 posts on a forum like this? Give me a break.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FinalWay

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BigJimbo said:
You have no time, yet you have been able to bang out over 100 posts on a forum like this? Give me a break.
lol...very true
 
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