"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do men form amazing social circles after college?

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I know that in college, fraternities offer a brotherhood for like-minded men who have some similar hobbies which include looking their best, going out often, and chasing hot girls. Unfortunately a lot of men after college here in the USA tend to settle down and start a family.

How do men after college form social circles with other like-minded men to the point that there is a fraternity or a social network of cool guys who have similar hobbies?

Would love some ideas.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Simple....meet regular people in ur office building...gym..coffee place or restaurant. And u say hello once in a while...then u build like a trust...then u see if their married...people usually talk about their lives and whammo... U keep in contact with the dudes who like to work out and party...or just keep in contact with all of them.

Its hard because not everyone is open ...but such is life.
 

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To be srs, friends from high school and college most of the time
 

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It's pretty easy:

1) Find interests and hobbies that you like.
2) Do them
3) While you're out and about, talk to people. Tell them about your interests. If they seem cool, invite them along. At first you might have no one join you. Keep at it. Then 1 will join, then 2, then they invite their friends.

You can form groups on meetup.com

Another way:

Go to lots of charity events. People are there to socialize and they are often the most upwardly mobile in your area. They are also connectors and will know many people. Befriend them, go to the events they invite you to consistently, be social and before you know it you will have a ton of friends.

Make sh*t happen, don't be the guy that lets stuff happen to him
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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