How do I stop this?

[than]

Every time I'm close to dating/getting with a new girl, even If i don't want them for a ltr, when i see sure signs of them liking me and being interested I get anxious and depressed about being committed to them. This happens even when I'm only in it for the hookup and I've made that very clear to them. Also when i begin to like a girl i get freaked out about it and my attraction/feelings towards her shut off and I'm just left feeling depressed about it. This has been frustrating me for a long time and I'm sick of it ruining so many potential relationships and hook ups, what can I do about dealing with this and stopping it from happening?

 

[TheSlasher]

Can you break this one down a little bit further? I can't fully understand what your troubles are.

 

[than]

Can you break this one down a little bit further? I can't fully understand what your troubles are.

Basically every time I'm beginning to think i like a girl i freak out and subconsciously shut myself off towards her completely, which i think might be due to a fear of oneitus. Also I've had what i think is commitment phobia for as long as i can remember which just makes things worse.

 

[TheSlasher]

Basically every time I'm beginning to think i like a girl i freak out and subconsciously shut myself off towards her completely, which i think might be due to a fear of oneitus. Also I've had what i think is commitment phobia for as long as i can remember which just makes things worse.

Damn, some problem you got there. Did you ever get laid?

 

[than]

Damn, some problem you got there. Did you ever get laid?

yes I've had hookups at parties that happened before i had time to over think it