Every time I'm close to dating/getting with a new girl, even If i don't want them for a ltr, when i see sure signs of them liking me and being interested I get anxious and depressed about being committed to them. This happens even when I'm only in it for the hookup and I've made that very clear to them. Also when i begin to like a girl i get freaked out about it and my attraction/feelings towards her shut off and I'm just left feeling depressed about it. This has been frustrating me for a long time and I'm sick of it ruining so many potential relationships and hook ups, what can I do about dealing with this and stopping it from happening?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How do I stop this?
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- Start date