"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I stop my friend from being a fatty magnet?

Blurry

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So I'm a freshman in college and so far its been going great. My good friend however has become a magnet for ugly girls. Hes not bad with women, but hes so nice and accommodating to the less desirable girls on the floor that they think they have a shot with him and will follow us to parties. He doesn't really have the heart to drive them away so its generally left up to me which puts me in an awkward spot.

Should I drive the fatties away with a stick and risk potentially alienating myself from her friends? How do I go about getting them to stop bothering us and make it clear we are not interested?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Scars

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I had a friend like this that I used to roll with back before he moved. Let me tell you, don't try and change him, let him do his thing. I'll tell you why.

My friend, we'll call him "T" was also very polite to fattys. He could spit some game (but it was mostly nice-guy game) and he got laid quite often. Infact, his lay number is/was nearly double mine, but my theory was simply because his standards were far less than mine.

Anyway, he became really handy at times. Have you ever been in a situation where you were macking on a hott girl and then her fat friend tries and CB? I used to have that problem, but not until I met "T". This guy was a "player" but he would seriously fvck anything with two legs, especially when he was drunk (which we almost always were). It was usually me, my friend "R", and my friend "T" and we'd roll like the 3 amigos. The glory days when we all used to party hop and get laid every weekend.. man, I miss those days. We actually used to make fun of him for being a "chunky chaser" but he didn't care. He wore the title with pride. In fact, his forte was chasing big woman or really older woman (he'd have a girlfriend and usually try to fvck her mom too, often times, he was actually successful). Totally went for the insecure girls that needed some "lovin" by every means of it. Anyway. You may see it as annoying and polluting your image now, but it's not you. Most fat girls have some hott friends, and vice versa. Use him to your advantage. If a girl ever clinged to me that I didn't like I would often just introduce them to "T" and they were off my balls instantly. He sarged, and he sarged HARD. Very persistent. Almost to the point where it was creepy. But he still managed to get laid. I actually miss him. But anyway, let your friend do his thing man. Look at it from outside the box. He may come in handy one night.

-Scars
 

PapiChulo

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Reeking of niceness. In college you have to be with the cool people who are surrounded by hot chicks. You loose points when people see you in the company of fat chicks. Make sure that doesn't happen.
 

Vice

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PapiChulo said:
Reeking of niceness. In college you have to be with the cool people who are surrounded by hot chicks. You loose points when people see you in the company of fat chicks. Make sure that doesn't happen.
This.

And read that thread about what kind of attention Pook got as he was building muscle and gaining weight; my theory is that your friend is small enough that fat girls think they have a chance with him.
 

jay_mo

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I agree with Scares.

1. you can use your friend to distract the hot chicks ****-blocking fat friends. If you meet a hot girl that has an ugly friend, she needs to be taken care of nicely - or the hot girl will not let you have her. You have a friend to do this for you voluntarily.

2. you are being afraid of what others are thinking of you. You are thinking other guys will think you´re into fat chicks. You think girls will think you´re low quality guy if you hang with ugly chicks. This means only one thing = you have bad confidence and low self esteem. That will keep you from getting girls. Stop to care... why should you care which people your friend brings with him? Go for their hot friends. Just have fun and stop to care.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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